Everything works out easily and simply for me, and the result exceeds all my wildest expectations!
There are times in life when no matter what you take on, everything goes awry. It seems like you are trying, doing everything right, but there are continuous difficulties and obstacles around you. Why is this happening? How to be positive?
We have dealt with negative attitudes in , now let’s figure out how to set ourselves up for positive thinking.
An unconscious order is when a person, without knowing it, attracts unfavorable events to himself. How does this happen?
The first thing to highlight is fears and doubts about a positive outcome of events. For example, a person worries that some undesirable situation does not happen in his life. But since he often thinks about this undesirable situation and puts in the emotions of the experience, this situation will definitely come true.
Second - focusing on the negative: Everyone has heard about this more than once. This concentration occurs due to the focus on negative events reported by the media. Disasters and other troubles. A person watches this kind of news, worries, then discusses these events, then worries again so that this does not happen to him, but...
Third - uncontrolled speech patterns: For example, if the words “problem”, “dead end”, “everything is useless”, etc. are often found in your speech. Similar words will attract similar situations.
It should be noted that it is difficult for a person in this situation. He seems to “walk in circles” and constantly faces the same problems. What to do? You need to train yourself to think positively!
Be positive
You need to monitor your speech, try to concentrate on the “good”, and try to find something good in any negative event, some benefit for yourself. Let's look at examples of “setting yourself up for the positive” in specific life situations:
Inversion of reality
I really liked Vadim Zeland’s recommendations on this matter in the book “Reality Transurfing”. I’ll briefly tell you in my own words: If some kind of trouble has happened to you, you need to force yourself to “be happy”, instead of being upset: “So..., good...” or something like that, and at the same time mentally “rubbing our hands” . Extraordinary, isn't it? It should be noted that this really works! And next time you will definitely be lucky!
Directing attention in a positive direction
For example, it’s winter and a flu epidemic is approaching. How can you not worry? Let's think about how to transform negative into positive. What should you do to avoid getting sick, or rather, to always be healthy? You need to somehow improve your immunity, for example, learn Qigong energy gymnastics exercises and perform them every morning. Or, in advance, starting in the summer, begin to harden. In addition, you can Laura Silva: “I always maintain a perfectly healthy body, spirit and immune system!”
Have you done all this work and are still a little worried? Then, use personal protective equipment, moisturize the nasal mucosa so that the virus cannot penetrate the cell (for example, before visiting public places, you need to instill salt drops into your nose (can be replaced with saline solution)), moisturize and ventilate the room, and repeat: “ My world takes care of me!”
Increasing the effectiveness of implementing intentions
How to force yourself not to worry if something very important is about to happen in life? Vadim Zeland gives the following answer to this question:
How not to be afraid? – We need to find insurance, an alternate route.
How not to worry and not worry?- Act. The potentials of anxiety and worry are dissipated in action.
How not to wait and not to wish?– Accept defeat and act. Dissolve desire and expectation into action.
How to give up your importance?– Accept your importance as an axiom, refuse actions aimed at increasing your importance.
From my experience of “concentrating on the “good”: in my thoughts, calmly, without lust, I replayed the favorable outcome of the event and thought: “it would be good if...” And everything worked out easily and simply, of course.
Solving problems with meditation
You can also work with your subconscious on a meditative level; techniques from the Silva Method are very suitable for this: “Mirror of Consciousness” or “Three-Dimensional Contemplation Exercise.”
Brief description of the technique:
- Relax, dive into a meditative level
- We present the problem that needs to be solved in the form of a dim, black and white picture. Letting go of the problem and waiting for it to completely disappear
- We get a solution to the problem in the form of lively, bright, colorful images. We imagine ourselves and the people around us in resolving this situation, we reinforce them with emotions of joy, happiness, gratitude, etc.
- In the next three days we receive signs indicating a solution to the problem or ways to get out of the current situation
Practical task: Working with the situation
Try to put Vadim Zeland's advice into practice. For example, when you need to get somewhere during rush hour and you are late, or you need to park your car in a place where there are practically no free parking spaces, you need to:
- calm down
- accept any outcome of events
- replay the backup option in your head
- imagine how you are on time and there is just a free parking space
- mentally repeat: “My world takes care of me!”
Who likes whiners and grumblers who complain about everything and are dissatisfied with everything in the world? That's right, no one.
Therefore, you need to set yourself up for positivity every day, early in the morning, in order to shine like the sun and enjoy new horizons. It is the positive energy that nourishes the body from the inside that makes life brighter, healthier and more optimistic!
But when there is a serious test ahead (an interview, a mother-in-law’s anniversary, a wedding, renovations, or a trip to the boss for a bigger salary), it is quite difficult to tune in to a positive outcome.
And if there is slush outside the window, and hormones are seething inside, you can’t count on positive energy.
Some people, in addition, are characterized by increased suspiciousness and depression; it is more difficult for them to drive away dark thoughts than for others. One click in the head - and the world again appears gray and sad, hopeless and joyless.
In this article we will teach you to leave the negative behind, tune in to the positive and let only positive emotions into your ship.
Make a decision, say "Stop"
You can break the chain of negativity with an effort of will: after all, you are the author of your fairy tale. And you decide who the story will be about - about a strong and brave princess or about a grumpy goblin.
It is important to understand that all these depressive melodies are bad for your health. Chronic diseases worsen, new ones appear, making life appear in even darker colors. 
As soon as you learn to speak and think positively, your health will improve. This will give you the strength to consolidate the result.
Start small - with your own words.
Even without really believing in success, say out loud “I will succeed,” “a happy ending awaits us,” “this is definitely for the best,” “I can handle it, of course.”
Speak loudly and firmly, trying to believe it and smile.
At first, of course, you will be cunning and deceive yourself. But allow yourself to play this strange game, and in a week or two it will cease to be a lie.
The universe reacts to your mood
They say that the boat will float whatever its name. Say about yourself, “I’m a loser, no one will love me like that,” and your personal life will immediately be covered with a copper basin.
Let's stand in front of the mirror this morning and say something different. For example, a positive optimistic mantra or affirmation:
“I am a damn charming, smart, purposeful girl with a light character and in the prime of my life.
There are no obstacles on my path, it is filled with joy, love and beauty, and I am happy to walk along it. My goals are real and desirable, and therefore they are achievable.
I can cope with the tasks that I set for myself, because I am very smart (“athlete”, “Komsomol member”, “excellent wife”, “caring mother”, “best daughter in the world”, “irreplaceable employee”... underline as necessary) "
Say No to Complaints, Envy and Anger
When we say “I’m unlucky, nothing will work out for me,” we justify our inaction and possible failures in advance.
This gives many people comfort in life: you can get angry over nonsense, envy the lucky ones, complain about everything and do nothing. Nice?
If you are worried about real problems (impending dismissal, impending divorce, discord with a friend, betrayal, guilt), do not hang on to the vests of your colleagues and relatives. Contact a psychologist who will help you speak out competently and productively.
If the problems are far-fetched, quickly throw them into an imaginary chest and nail down the lid!
Look for positivity in the outside world
Remember what exactly brings joy to your home? Chocolate, a set of delicious rolls, your favorite series about Sherlock, a bottle of white semi-sweet, a romantic dinner with your husband, assembling Lego alone with your child, an evening workout in a half-empty gym until exhaustion?
Sign up for a massage course, buy a pool membership, order a handmade cake just for yourself... Any means are good in the war for a positive attitude!
Enjoy the little things, and try to ignore misfortunes, even major ones (or perceive them as a step towards something new and better). Usually people do the opposite, not seeing the beauty around them, not understanding how important a child’s smile, a delicious lunch and an interesting book are.
But a broken heel or a fleeting conflict with a colleague can throw you off balance for a long time. The beautiful world has the right to be offended by such unfair treatment!
Imagine yourself in a vacuum
In order for positivity to penetrate your life, you need to prepare a platform for it. First, we clear the inner space, throwing out all the unnecessary rubbish - doubts, worries, painful thoughts, mania, guilt, etc.
Psychologists offer a good exercise. Imagine yourself inside a transparent cosmic sphere, behind a thin but durable shell.
And not a single thought - neither good nor bad - can break through it and disturb you.
Imagine thoughts as physical objects and, by force of will, push them away from you, without allowing yourself to think about them.
Another option is to imagine an old janitor with a long shaggy broom, carefully sweeping away all negative thoughts from your inner space.
“Rust! Shork! Rust! Shork! his broom flies melodiously, and you feel only the freshness of the morning and the joy of cleansing.
Such exercises should be performed before bed, for 30 minutes, without allowing any thoughts to enter your mind. This way you will spend the night calmly, without nightmares, insomnia and worries, and in the morning you will be able to quickly tune in to the positive.
Greetings, friends!
Have you ever had a time when life dealt blow after blow and it was unclear where to expect the next trick? I'm going through this period right now. How to be positive if everything is bad? After all, this can’t all happen forever?
The world around us often gives us reason for grief, worry and despondency. But you don’t want to live, constantly worrying about something! But there are people who remain calm even in such difficult situations, when others give up. For example, is the glass half full or half empty for you? Who do you belong to - gloomy pessimists or cheerful optimists? Why do some people, having received a “sour lemon” from life, do not frown at it, but try to quickly make lemonade out of it and squeeze out all the most positive things from this situation?
The secret of such people is their special view of the world. After all, it is not the situation itself that is important, but how we react to it. Don't you feel sorry for wasting your life on worthless and empty experiences? So how to be positive? After all, this can be learned. Just start doing five simple tasks.
Positive attitude
Learn to find something good in everything that happens to you. If you cannot change the situation, change your attitude towards it. What if this minor trouble saves you from big trouble? And remember that “there are no insurmountable difficulties, there are difficulties that you are too lazy to overcome.”
Express your emotions!
Don’t try to keep everything to yourself, otherwise those around you won’t know what’s going on in your soul. If you're having fun, laugh; if you offend someone, don't keep it to yourself, tell them. It’s better to create a storm in a glass of water than to have a volcano raging inside you. This will help you maintain peace of mind.
Small pleasures
Let's remember what was the last time you did something nice for yourself, your beloved? Is it difficult to remember? Understand! We would rather please our husband, children, parents or sisters, and maybe even friends. But I rarely have enough time and energy for myself, and somehow I have no time for myself. But in vain! Accustom yourself to small joys (a flower, a delicious chocolate bar - but not for children, but for yourself, your beloved!), etc. Oh yes, and don’t put off until tomorrow what you can please yourself with today!
Movement!
Have you noticed that people look more energetic, cheerful and cheerful? Because they know that movement is life! If you suddenly feel blues or melancholy, immediately grab your friends and run to the gym or ride bikes! And the melancholy will go away on its own.
Live now!
Everyone probably admitted the following thoughts: “But then, for example, I’ll buy a car,” or “But in five years, everything will work out for me, and I’ll immediately live a life of pleasure.” And did this happen to you? Why wait for this “someday”? Live now! Don’t look back at the past, don’t make plans for the future, otherwise you won’t notice that NOW is passing you by. Learn to be happy here and now.
Two people looked out the same window,
One saw the rain and mud,
The other is green elm foliage,Spring and blue skies...
Two people were looking out the same window...
Let's help each other be positive!
Can't stay positive?
Have you noticed that children always smile and at the same time glow like the sun? And when do adults smile and laugh? Only when there is a serious reason. What if, for example, you get up for work tomorrow morning and try to smile all day? The minimum that others will think about you is: “someone hit you with a dust bag.” And all this happens because we are too bogged down in our worries and problems and have stopped smiling just like that, carefree, like children... So how to find a reason to smile at a passerby on a gloomy day, how to tune in to positive thinking?
Man is a huge world in which good and evil, hatred and forgiveness easily coexist. What is considered a victory and how to treat defeat, each person determines for himself. Those who do not want to experience the pain of mental wounds try to forget them as quickly as possible or learn at least some lesson from the current situation. Others, on the contrary, spend a long time nursing their wounds.
But we create most of the problems precisely by our attitude towards life. How many of you are prevented from living by sad memories, worries about yourself, your future or your loved ones? Probably many. It’s like we can’t get out of this swamp. I’m not calling you to give up worrying entirely. I just suggest not getting hung up on this, learning to switch to something completely new. Don't let negative thoughts take over.
Do you want to become an optimist and develop positive thinking?
Let's try to figure out how to do this together.
Indulge your desires
When we became adults, we began to do many things not only because we want them, but because we NEED them. As a result, we accumulate nervous tension, overwork and negative emotions. How to deal with this? Indulge your desires from time to time. Buy ice cream and eat it in the park on a bench, leisurely and without thinking about how many calories it contains.
Decide to do something for the first time
For example, go skydiving or go to Indian dancing. Even if you only have enough time for a couple of classes or jumps, you will undoubtedly experience new sensations unknown before.
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Look around - many don’t even have what you have.
Watch the animals
Animals themselves make us smile and even laugh out loud. If you don't have a pet, watch your neighbor's dog or cat, or, for example, go to the zoo.
Add a special touch to any event
Liven up a celebration or an ordinary activity, approach it from an unexpected angle, and you will notice how easily and playfully you can cope with any task.
The good old films of our childhood are another way to cheer up. Only films must have a happy ending, otherwise the effect will be the opposite.
For me, the life-affirming films were:
Celebrate the positive around you
Try to notice something positive around you every day (you can even write it down for starters). Every day look for something good nearby, and each time there is one more pleasant event. For example, yesterday you noticed the first green grass, today you listened to the birds singing in the park and saw sparrows swimming in the first puddle. And tomorrow you need to find three positive moments around, and so on. Remember the old saying
“A pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity, but an optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty”?
Learn to enjoy life
- He who rarely smiles cannot think optimistically. Have you noticed that when you are in a good mood, you involuntarily begin to smile at yourself and at everyone passing by? Therefore, if you are in a bad mood, stretch your lips into a smile (even through force), and the muscles of your lips will send positive emotions to your brain. Then the whole body will tune in to a positive mood.
- In the most difficult or ridiculous situations, laugh at yourself. Your body will instantly get rid of nervous tension, you will be able to look at the problem from a different angle and will not give up.
- When do we give gifts? For birthdays, New Year, March 8th? And that's all... And just like that? Just a present from the heart? The main thing is that the gift is from the heart, and even better - made with your own hands. “If you feel bad, find someone who is even worse and... Then it will become much easier for you too!”
- Remember how you acted as a child when someone nearby was sulking. What did you do during this? That's right - they grimaced and grimaced until he, “with a sour expression,” began to laugh heartily. So take this technique into service. As soon as the “lemon” appears, start sticking your tongue out at yourself in the mirror and making faces. This childhood habit will instantly cheer you up.
- And one more piece of advice: be different, change more often, obey your inner instinct about what you should be today (strict and businesslike or a mischievous girl with ponytails). Only then will you feel full inner freedom and will fully enjoy the flow of life!
And remember: to frown, you will have to use 43 facial muscles, and to smile - only 10... Do not forget the words of the unforgettable Baron Munchausen from the film by Mark Zakharov:
“A serious face is not a sign of intelligence; all the stupid things in the world are committed with this facial expression. Smile, gentlemen, smile!”
One of the most common misconceptions is that significant achievements are the result of luck and hard work. In fact, the key to a happy life and self-realization is a positive mood.
Your thinking determines the world in which you live. It hides all the reasons for success, failure, actions and reactions. If you've ever wondered how to maintain a positive approach, the good news is that there are a variety of ways. Consciously controlling your thoughts and feelings will help you change them. Of course, it is impossible to switch from a negative perception of the world to a positive one in one moment, however, anyone who wants to really try is quite capable of coping with such a task. If you feel like you are caught in the trap of negative thoughts, consider that a positive attitude is difficult to be born with and requires conscious and consistent action. There are certain habits that help you transform your attitude. Try to develop them in yourself, control negative thoughts when they first appear and consciously replace them with more positive ones.
Be grateful to fate even in times of great disappointment
There will always be times in life when things don't go the way they should. This is simply a fact, inevitable and necessary for personal development. However, in a moment of disappointment, it is difficult to look at the problem from the outside. It seems that the whole world has narrowed down to one difficulty! The next time you feel discouraged, don't give in to negativity or regret. Better accept the fact that the past cannot be changed. The best thing you can do is learn from your experience, be grateful for it, and move on. When you fall, it is important to get up and continue on your way with gratitude, because you have learned something. If you didn’t learn, then at least you weren’t physically harmed. If you get sick, you can rejoice that it is not fatal. This is what Buddha taught!
Believe in yourself even when there seems to be no hope
Faith is the strongest source of energy; it will help you continue to move through life even in the most difficult moments. Then, when you feel desperate and want to give up, remind yourself that this is all temporary. There is no point in endlessly worrying about how everything will turn out, just accept the fact - it will be as it will be. Believe in yourself and try your best. Enjoy the moment and don't worry about the future, because you won't be able to control or change it anyway.
Share love even if no one appreciates it
True love does not require anything in return either from the person himself or from other people. You should not use it as a reward or a way to evoke certain emotions. You must learn to experience love always so that a positive mood overwhelms you. If others hurt you with their actions or behavior, you should accept the fact that they simply cannot be controlled - you can only control your actions and emotions. Don't let other people's negativity define your life. If you start looking for problems within yourself, it’s worth remembering that you must remain yourself, and those around you need to be able to accept a person for who he is. Don’t try to change others, only change your own view of them, yourself and the world around you. In a positive light, everything seems much more pleasant and encouraging!
Believe in the power of positivity in the darkest moments.
Each of us has to face various challenges in life, but a positive outlook on the world can serve as a guiding light in the darkness. If you don't believe in a positive mood, you are dependent on others and circumstances. It's worth remembering: no matter what you do, a positive mood will help you do better. If you feel like negativity is taking over again, remind yourself that strength lies in optimism and pessimism is the choice of the weak. Nothing fills you with energy more than a positive outlook on the world! Remember: everything depends only on your conscious choice. Decide for yourself how you want to approach life, and the result will simply surprise you.
Even in failure there can be something good hidden
Your attitude, whether positive or negative, serves as a kind of filter through which you view every situation in your life. A negative mood causes failure to be taken much more seriously, and every success seems fleeting or random, and the joy from it is muted. At the same time, a positive attitude fills a person with energy and helps him see the deeper meaning behind every situation he encounters. For example, imagine being rejected after an interview at your dream office. The easiest way is to perceive such a situation as a complete failure. However, you may change your mood and find it a valuable experience. Perhaps now you have a better understanding of how to behave in an interview, and next time you will be able to prepare for it better. Or maybe your view of your career path will change, and you decide to choose a different profession in which you can realize your potential more fully. In a word, it is important not to concentrate on failures, but to see them as particularly valuable and use them to benefit your future life. If you look at the sun, shadows will stop bothering you! Remind yourself of this more often and smile at life even when it seems to turn its back on you!
There are times in each of our lives when it seems like the world has collapsed. There can be a great many reasons for this: seasonal depression, failures in your personal life or career, health problems or. And the more a person complains about life, the more grief it brings him. How to break out of this state? How to set yourself up for positivity?
Why is a positive attitude so important?
A positive attitude plays an important role in how a person's life turns out. Pessimists, bores and whiners rarely achieve anything in life. But optimists who are positive-minded easily overcome difficulties and strive at full speed towards their goal. And they achieve it!
What is the secret to staying positive? It has long been proven that a person attracts to himself the energy that he himself gives to the world, according to the principle of mirror reflection. Being angry at failures, seeing only the bad in one’s own life, considering oneself a “loser,” a person seems to be programming himself for further failures and defeats. “I will never succeed in this”, “I will never be able to achieve this” - by saying these phrases, a person dooms himself, he really will never succeed and achieve nothing.
Look around: lucky people are mostly positive, cheerful, who know how to enjoy life and give positive emotions to others. Luck is attracted to them like a magnet. One has only to become limp, fall into depression, begin to get upset over trifles and consider oneself unlucky - and life will be filled with problems and failures.
People are designed in such a way that they notice the bad, but do not attach importance to the good. Positivity theory assumes a completely opposite worldview. You should stop being sad about your existing problems and start enjoying the good things you have. Remember that thoughts materialize - therefore a positive attitude is simply necessary for those who want to take the best from life. Love your life and it will love you back!
Positive attitude: where to start?
How to set yourself up for positivity? First of all, you need to stop crying, complaining about life and seeing only negative things in it. And the main thing is to stop envying those who, in your opinion, live better than you. Remember the saying “It’s good where we are not” - if you live your whole life based on this principle, then happiness will never knock on your door. Instead of looking for advantages in someone else’s life, it’s better to take care of “improving” your own.
A positive attitude is impossible without self-love. Stop focusing on your shortcomings, forget about your own complexes, cross out the failures of past years in your memory. Tell yourself that you deserve only the best and from now on direct the ship of your life to achieve your goals.
Treat yourself to something. Start small: eat a delicious chocolate bar or listen to your favorite music. If you haven’t gotten enough sleep for a long time, take a day off and get a good night’s sleep; if you’ve neglected your appearance, visit a beauty salon; or, if you haven’t seen your friends for a hundred years, organize a get-together or go to a club with them. Moments of joy and fulfillment of small desires will attract a positive attitude into your life.
Positive Attitude Techniques
Recently it has gained particular popularity simoron technique– the magical science of attracting good luck. Absurd, easy and pleasant to use, simoron is rightfully considered the best technique for a positive attitude at the moment.
Special Simoron exercises can help you tune in to the good – affirmations. How to set yourself up for positivity using affirmations? You should pronounce various positive statements more often, as if programming yourself. Determine what is important to you at a given moment in time, what you would like to achieve, clearly formulate your desire in a concise phrase - and repeat it as often as possible.
Another useful exercise - visualization. This is a mental representation, a kind of “picture” of what a person dreams of, what he strives for. It is recommended to visualize before going to bed, closing your eyes and clearly imagining the realization of your dream.
Personal horoscope. Try creating your own personal horoscope in first person for a certain period of time. Predict to yourself everything you want, what you strive for, what you dream about.
Wish card. Another way to set yourself up for positivity is to create a personal wish map. This is a kind of collage consisting of your desires, aspirations and goals. Make your wish card bright, beautiful and hang it in a prominent place so that you can meet your dreams every day and remember that they are waiting - they can’t wait for you to start making them come true.
So, you have a positive attitude - now it’s just a matter of small things: start being active and take certain steps towards improving your own life. A positive attitude towards the surrounding reality will help you find the right ways to solve problems, overcome them with ease and start a new life full of colors. The main thing is to do everything with pleasure, with joy, with soul.
Approach any activity, any work with a good mood - then the fruits will be significant and tangible. Try to love yourself and the world around you, give people smiles, take care of your family and friends. From the heart, without expecting gratitude in return - just learn to enjoy what you do for others. Fate is favorable to such people, and in turn generously gifts them.
Having understood how to set yourself up for positivity, try to preserve this skill forever and make it become a habit. A positive attitude should become the motto of your life, and you yourself should be the living embodiment of optimism. By practicing daily to attract positivity into your life, you will soon achieve amazing results and before you even notice, your life will begin to change dramatically - for the better, of course!
