Women are amazing and unpredictable creatures. Any man will confirm this fact. They are sweet, mysterious and... often cry for no apparent reason.
Women's tears put men into a stupor, frighten, irritate and disarm. What are the reasons for this exciting phenomenon? Let's try to figure out why a woman cries.
Why do women cry
The tendency to cry has a biological basis - the hormone prolactin, which is present in the body of every woman. In children under 10 years of age, this hormone is present regardless of gender, but after 13 years of age it remains in the blood only in the female half of humanity. That's why strong women cry too. This is not a sign of powerlessness, it’s just how nature ordered it.
There is no clear answer to the question why a woman cries. The uncontrollable desire to burst into tears can be caused by anything.
Causes of women's tears
1. Stress and emotional release
Women's tears can be caused by severe stress and the need for emotional release. The reasons why women cry can be both negative and positive.
It is not without reason that the song says that a strong woman cries at the window. If your woman is crying, you should not leave her alone, it is better to caress and hug her, demonstrating your tenderness. After all, love and care are what every representative of the fairer sex dreams of. And they will help her survive any grief.
Women's tears are both a weapon and protection.
A woman’s tears can plunge a man into a stupor, irritate, drive him crazy, and attract him. Women skillfully learned to use the weapons given by nature. But it’s not just that women cry?
Oddly enough, the increased tearfulness of the fair half of humanity, in comparison with the male part of the population, also has a dry physiological explanation. A woman’s blood contains the hormone prolactin, which is responsible for the production of tears and, interestingly, for the formation of milk during breastfeeding. In men, there is a hormone called testosterone, which resists tears, preventing tear fluid from accumulating.
Since childhood, we are sometimes told: “Cry, cry, it will become easier!”
Tears are not only psychological relief, but also a scientifically proven process of cleansing the body. The chemical composition of tears is distinguished by the presence of a stress hormone. It stands out during particularly intense moments of life, when a person is overwhelmed with emotions, be they negative feelings or positive sensations. Tears, thus, remove toxic substances from the human body that are formed during stress and overexertion. After crying, a person calms down.
Women can cry for or without a reason, it’s just that the feminine essence itself presupposes her emotionality of experiences and a special sensitivity to everything that happens.
Traditionally, a woman is the keeper of the hearth, who worries about her children, husband, relatives and friends.
In fact, God and nature have given a woman such colossal strength that sometimes it simply overwhelms her, and the woman bursts into tears. A woman does not care about her personal wealth, she must always be needed by someone, and she selflessly gives her love and care to others, loves and cherishes her children, no matter what they are, even if they are ungrateful to her.
It is generally accepted that women are the weaker sex, but in reality it is a woman, gentle, affectionate, wise, sometimes hot-tempered, and sometimes overly sentimental, who is the support of a man and his confidence in life. By creating comfort and a warm atmosphere in the family, a woman supports a man, assures him of importance and relevance, love and security. Sometimes women are offended by their man’s lack of attention, his coldness and stinginess of emotions. It's a shame to the point of tears. And the women cry. But, despite the shortcomings, aggressiveness and inattention of their men, women wait for them and love them, sincerely and faithfully.
Women cry when something doesn't work out for them, and in moments when it seems that the whole world is against them. They cry because of injustice and insults. When she sees a homeless kitten or puppy, tears of pity appear in a woman’s eyes, and in her soul there is a desire to hug and protect the whole world.
Sometimes women are overly sentimental, but if this were not the case, the whole world would be cruel and warlike. The romanticism and childish naivety of women softens the hearts of men, awakening in them the desire to care, protect and protect.
Women cry with joy. They experience any feelings so closely and strongly that a simple smile or laughter is not enough for them. A woman can burst into tears at the moment of supreme happiness, a man cannot understand this.
Therefore, if your beloved, mother or daughter is crying, do not shout at her, do not say that she is weak and weak-willed, but sympathize with her if these are tears of disappointment or pain, or rejoice with her.
And just understand. Anyway.
“If a woman cries” - Memo for men
1. First, determine whose woman is crying. If she is already someone's, it is dangerous to console her. If it is a draw, you can take it for yourself. Now, if a woman continues to cry, it becomes completely clear that she is crying from happiness.
2. If your woman cries, you should not leave her alone. Because they might think it's a draw. Be as close and attentive to her as possible. Move to a distance where her voice can no longer be heard, but do not let her out of sight - use binoculars.
3. There are a number of questions that should never be asked to women in tears: “What do you want?”, “Who is to blame?”, “What should I do?” The answer to the first question will hurt your wallet, and the last two will hurt your pride.
4. In response to women’s tears, there is no need to run anywhere, save or punish anyone. Because it will definitely turn out that you should have run in the wrong direction, to save someone else, but to do everything completely the opposite.
5.You should not give gifts to crying women. This is a very vicious habit. Better give me a pack of handkerchiefs. Remember, gifts should only be given to cheerful women. This is how a useful conditioned reflex and an attitude towards a pleasant character are developed.
6. If you did everything according to the instructions, and the woman continues to cry and does not leave for another, it means that she really needs to be comforted by you. Show her your sad and interested face. To do this, you will have to put your binoculars aside and come closer.
7. It is not necessary to delve into everything that a crying woman says. The main thing is to sigh in the pauses and gently hug between them.
8. An aerobatics maneuver is a well-timed tear running down an unshaven cheek. At such moments, a woman forgets about her problems and automatically begins to console you.
“If a man cries” - Memo for women
1. Be tactful. Pretend not to notice the restrained male sobs.
2. If the sobs are not restrained enough, pat the man on the shoulder and say “Well, well!”
3.If a man continues to cry, check his diaper and give breastfeeding.
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- First, determine whose woman is crying. If she is already someone's, it is dangerous to console her. If it is a draw, you can take it for yourself. Now, if a woman continues to cry, it becomes completely clear that she is crying from happiness.
- If your woman is crying, you should not leave her alone. Because they might think it's a draw. Be as close and attentive to her as possible. Move to a distance where her voice can no longer be heard, but do not let her out of sight - use binoculars.
- There are a number of questions that should never be asked to women in tears: “What do you want?”, “Who is to blame?”, “What should I do?”
The answer to the first question will hurt your wallet, and the last two will hurt your pride. - In response to women's tears, there is no need to run anywhere, save or punish anyone. Because it will definitely turn out that you should have run in the wrong direction, to save someone else, but to do everything completely the opposite.
- You should not give gifts to crying women. This is a very vicious habit. Better give me a pack of handkerchiefs. Remember, gifts should only be given to cheerful women. This is how a useful conditioned reflex and an attitude towards a pleasant character are developed.
- If you did everything according to the instructions, and the woman continues to cry and does not leave for another, it means that she really needs to be comforted by you. Show her your sad and interested face. To do this, you will have to put your binoculars aside and come closer.
- It is not necessary to delve into everything that a crying woman says. The main thing is to sigh in the pauses and gently hug between them.
- An aerobatics maneuver is a well-timed tear running down an unshaven cheek. At such moments, a woman forgets about her problems and automatically begins to console you.
“If a man cries” - Memo for women
- Be tactful. Pretend not to notice the restrained male sobs.
- If the sobs are not restrained enough, pat the man on the shoulder and say, “Well, well!”
- If the man continues to cry, check his diaper and give the breast.
10 out of 10 men become nervous when a woman cries. Is it true that this is how a woman wants to use you? How to react to women's tears correctly?
Read now:
1. Why do women cry, and is it always bad?
2. In what cases does a woman use tears for manipulation?
3. How can you tell when a woman is crying sincerely and when she is crying on purpose?
4. What does a woman need from a man when she cries?
5. How to react to women's tears correctly?
Why do women cry, and is it always bad?
What is important for men to understand?
A woman lives by feelings, and tears reflect her inner state. A woman can cry from tenderness and happiness, from grief and disappointment, from insults or humiliation... or demonstratively.
Often a woman needs to cry in order to get rid of accumulated emotions.
A woman’s tears are like a safety valve that prevents her from “exploding.”
What does a man do when he feels bad or needs to internally experience certain events?
He goes into himself! He needs to be alone to think things over. Only then does it become easier for him.
What does a woman do in the same situations?
She urgently needs to discuss everything with someone - a friend, colleague or her own husband (boyfriend). If you can’t “let off steam” through conversation, tears are used. Then it becomes easier for her!
In what cases does a woman use tears for manipulation?
Many men believe that a woman cries only to force them to do things their way.
Is it really?
Of course, whims, and sometimes even “exemplary hysterics,” are characteristic of women. Some women use tears very skillfully, evoking pity and other necessary feelings in a man.
BUT! Note to husbands!
Wives use this technique extremely rarely, unlike “stranger” women. In most cases in family life, a woman begins to cry when she can no longer contain her emotions. And this is not a method of manipulation¹, not a desire to evoke feelings of guilt, pity or anything else - this is a way to alleviate your condition!
How can you tell when a woman is crying sincerely and when she is crying on purpose?
If a woman really needs to cry, she will try to hide her tears, walk away from the man so that he does not see her at this moment.
When a woman cries demonstratively, showing with all her appearance how unhappy she is, this is clearly manipulation.
There is one more sign!
If a woman cries beautifully (wiping her eyes with a handkerchief and trying not to ruin her makeup), then these are tears for the purpose of influence. If a woman cannot hold back her sobs, and she no longer cares what she looks like, this means that she really feels bad.
What does a woman need from a man when she cries?
If women's tears are a means of manipulation, then everything is clear. With tears, the woman tries to get the man to make concessions. How to react in this case? Everyone decides for themselves. You can follow the lead if it is acceptable, or you can stand your ground.
But if a woman needs to free herself from accumulated emotions, then at this moment she does not need anything from you!
Often men don’t know how to react - he didn’t seem to say anything, but she burst into tears and began accusing her of all mortal sins.
Not at all!
If this happened, then this only means that the woman has reached “the point.” She can no longer contain herself, this is beyond her. At this moment she needs a release.
The fact that she remembers all the grievances does not mean that she is trying to make you feel guilty and show how bad you are!
This way she is simply freed from negative emotions.
Don't take her words personally, even if they seem unfair to you. Don’t start making excuses or defending yourself (even if you really want to). Apart from clarifying the relationship, this will not give anything, and, believe me, when a woman cries, this is not the best moment. In such a situation, she can be aggressive and merciless in her statements.
How to react to women's tears correctly?
When a woman cries sincerely, a man should wait a little (10 minutes until the first wave passes), and then come up and offer to talk. This is the best tactic that will quickly return a woman to her normal state and make her feel grateful!
Just to talk is to listen without offense or complaints, without taking anything personally.
For example, when a woman, in response to your offer to talk, says: “I was hoping that we would go somewhere together, but you are busy again, work is most important to you,” you should not take this as an accusation, feel guilt, irritation, desire justify yourself.
In fact, she just wanted to say:
“I feel bad without you, I miss you, I need your attention and your support. Give me some time!”
Sounds different, doesn't it?
But this is a communication problem. When a woman, as it seems to you, accuses you, then in fact she just wants to say about her condition, that she feels bad at the moment. And the reason may not even be you! But to “heal” she needs your understanding and support.
You should not take an offensive position. Just try to enter her state, feel what she feels (for this it’s worth). Then you will always come out of such situations as a winner, and your significant other will be grateful to you.
Notes and feature articles for deeper understanding of the material
¹ Psychological manipulation is a type of social, psychological influence, which is the desire to change the perception or behavior of other people using hidden, deceptive and violent tactics (
