“In this chapter I will tell you what to do if the woman who has the good fortune to be your wife goes the wrong way. The right path for such a woman has four components: humility, modesty, awe of her husband and awareness of the calling of a mother and wife. All these components give rise to humility in marriage, and marriage, as we know, is the basis of society and the structure of the world.

If your wife is disobedient, capricious in her sayings, has neglected housekeeping and raising children, refuses to fulfill her marital duties, or is disrespectful to your parents, then she may be considered astray and should receive physical punishment, just as livestock who go outside receive their punishment. pasture limits. Truly I tell you: a woman who goes the wrong way must be punished by her husband and thereby returned to the right path.

Problems with obedience and misbehavior of your wife arise for two main reasons, the first of which is your connivance and gentleness with her, and the second is the connivance and gentleness of her parents and, above all, her father. If the father was overly kind to his daughter, and she did not know the rod, but only affection and permissiveness, then she becomes a disobedient wife who does not recognize the supremacy of a man. Marriage with such a woman promises only disappointment. Your own connivance and gentleness come from the fact that in your family the father was not a shepherd over the woman, but only part of the flock. And it’s even worse if he allowed your mother to be a shepherd - to dominate the family, determine where to spend money and how to raise children. There are now families in which mothers are allowed to raise their hands against boys. A good father will strike such a hand with a rod, because a boy whose mother punished him cannot grow up to be a man.

Perhaps you are susceptible to modern trends that speak of equality between men and women. If so, then you will most likely be disappointed and find yourself in an unhappy position, because a woman cannot steer the family ship to prosperity. Without male guidance, she becomes capricious and chaotic, steering the ship into the reefs.

Only a blind man does not see that a woman is lower than a man, and if you are one of those, then I will give you three main reasons that speak of the primacy of a father and husband over his wife and daughter: first of all, the husband is higher than the wife because on the marital bed he gives from myself. The second is that a woman lives by emotion, and a man lives by thought. A man’s brain is larger and it is he who has the right to think and determine the path. The third reason is that the man is stronger in body, which means he is the one who gets food, builds a house and protects the woman. Considering a woman equal is like encouraging the independence of a cat that eats from its owner's bowl.

A woman should invest her efforts in pleasing her husband with her beauty, fulfilling marital duties, running a household, raising children and helping her husband in his affairs. The time remaining from these duties, a woman can devote to some activity that brings her joy, such as art, reading religious literature or conversations with smart people. A smart husband will not encourage his wife to communicate with her friends, especially those who do not have children or indulge in an idle lifestyle.

Now I will tell you about how to punish a woman who has strayed from the right path, namely, who does not invest her best strength in family well-being or who contradicts her husband and is wayward. You should not resort to physical punishment right away. First, you should make a list of what does not suit your husband - whether it is done poorly or ignored. Maybe the wife does not meet her husband in a smart dress, walks around in the morning without putting on makeup, and does not consider it necessary to take off her husband’s clothes when he enters the house. The same applies to washing your husband's feet and even bringing him slippers. Many husbands don’t even know what real affection and care are, because their wives are not passionate about caring for them, but about their own affairs, which start from gossiping with friends to idle shopping or surfing on social networks. Active care for a man should occupy a woman. This is where she can reach the pinnacle of her development if she is lucky enough to have a husband who will show her the right path.

So, having compiled such a list, the husband points out to his wife the disastrous results of her action or inaction and discusses the wife’s new behavior that will suit him. Of course, all husbands should apply the reasonableness and scope of these requirements to themselves, because the wife is not a servant. However, you shouldn't be too soft. It is worth discussing each of the requirements with her and it is possible to come to a compromise that suits both. If already at the stage of such a discussion or later, when the woman must make every effort to fulfill the requirements, she reveals disobedience, willfulness, negligence in relation to what is required, the husband must apply physical punishment to her.

Again, I want to keep husbands from using such punishment right away. At the first stage, excommunicating the wife from the marital bed works well. For a man who has known many women and has many wives, it is no secret that any woman is addicted to male intimate caresses and takes such punishment very seriously. To begin with, a man should establish that a wife who does not fulfill the demands placed on her or shows waywardness is excommunicated from the marital bed for three or four days for each such offense. Among the wives there are those who do not consider this measure a punishment. Or those who will pretend that punishment is a joy for her. Unfortunately, only a rod can bring such a woman to reason.

How to beat your wife correctly? To begin with, the man must once again draw his wife’s attention to the fact that she did not heed his admonitions and re-read the list of demands, focusing on those that were not met. This may make you smile, but the first time you hit your wife, you need to use a toothpick. The husband should approach his wife and strike three times with a toothpick on any part of the body, and then warn her that next time the punishment will be carried out using a rod. And show this rod to your wife. The rod that a good husband chooses to punish his wife should not be thinner than the little finger or thicker than the middle finger of his hand. It must be made of wood. The rod should not have protrusions, metal or any sharp parts, nor should it be made of dry wood that is in danger of splintering. This can damage the wife's skin and make her look ugly.

A good husband who practices consistency and thoroughness in his actions may have a question: on what parts of the body and how to beat his wife? It is impossible to provide for all options, but there are at least two types of women and two types of strikes. Thin women, whom, in my opinion, the Creator sends to punish men, should be beaten with sharp and light blows. The plump, possessing real oriental beauty, should be struck infrequently, slowly, but heavily. You should never hit a woman with your hand. Firstly, you can damage your hand, and secondly, a woman should not associate a man’s hand with pain.

Under no circumstances should you hit a woman in the following places: the face and back of the head, the stomach - especially in the lower part, the lower back, as well as the forearms, hands, legs and shins. And in particular, men often ask me why you can’t hit your wife in the lower back? To which I answer: a wife punished in this way has difficulty doing housework, for example, mopping the floors and washing clothes, and she is also completely unable to lift weights and bring home shoes to the man. As for the forearms, hands, legs and shins, these are open parts that should please the male gaze, and not frighten him with bruises. Strikes should be struck on the buttocks, upper arms and back, and thighs. You should not chase your wife around the house screaming and insulting, such behavior is unworthy of a man. First, you should approach her and politely ask her to accept the punishment by squatting or all fours. The wife must first remove her dress, or lower its upper or lower part. If she resists, then you should very carefully but firmly twist her arms and possibly secure them with a string, after which, after bending her to the floor or carefully holding her head between your knees, punish her with a rod.

Men also ask how many blows can be thrown? I answer that in any case the number of blows should not exceed one blow, for two years of the wife’s life. Under no circumstances should you demand silence from her; give her the opportunity to cry and scream. This rule applies to the next two hours after the punishment. However, if after this time the screams and tears do not stop, it is worth demanding silence from the woman, and if she does not hear such a demand, punish again. I will add that the path of raising a wife who has gone astray is a very big test for the husband, requiring a lot of strength from him. However, it is worth it, because we know many women who, having received what they deserved, began to live in obedience, modesty and humility.”

Sheikh Khifir al Siddikh, treatise “Instructions for Young Husbands”, ch. 18.

If this happened to anyone else, I would never believe it, but it happened to me, this is reality. It all started about four months ago. An ordinary family evening with my wife. As usual, we talked about highly intellectual topics, and at some point the discussion moved from a peaceful channel to a war channel. The wife said the most popular tired phrase about men: All men are the same. That it is for them that a chastity belt needs to be invented, then it would look much more interesting and fun. Naturally, I could not help but defend same-sex representatives. I said that we shouldn’t paint everyone with the same paint, that men are different and that there are those who, having fallen in love once, will never give up love and will remain faithful all their lives. The wife, of course, laughed and asked for an example. Like, if there are, if there are quite a few of them, then where? I began to set an example for a long time and brought up my candidacy. At first the wife wanted to object, but there was nothing to object with. She did not find a single reason, not a single reason to call me unfaithful. And realizing her guilt, she suffered a serious punishment, gave me the TV remote control for the evening, and she went to bed. For about an hour, sobbing could be heard from the bedroom. Naturally, the next day I forgot about this conversation.
But after about two months, strange events began to occur. It was only later that I understood what was happening, but at first I was completely confused. It all started at work. I work in construction and we have our own established team. And there are female representatives, plasterers and painters. Previously, nothing special was noticed about them, women were like women, but then small nuances began, which soon flowed into a general, understandable picture. At first, the women who are plasterers began to feed me, you know how it happens, they bring something tasty from home and treat everyone. It seemed great, what else could men dream of, but no, there was a special interest in me. Pies with cabbage or onions for everyone, and with meat for me, green tea for everyone from bags, and large-leaf black tea for me from a thermos, doshiraki for everyone without mayonnaise, and for me with mayonnaise, and so on. Okay, it doesn’t seem like anything special, but there’s more to come. All the painters, including the foreman, began to come to work dressed like they did not come to work. Make-up, pronounced body shapes. I realized that something was wrong at the moment when the foreman, without changing into overalls, took a spatula, climbed onto the goat and began working. Imagine a woman from a restaurant or theater on a sawhorse with a spatula, this is what it looked like. Well, the apogee of all this was the offer of the foreman Vera to stay after work and merge in passionate ecstasy on the glass wool. She left and said that she was waiting for me there... Naturally, I didn’t go, but in the morning I found out that Vera was taken to the hospital with attacks of total itching of the whole body. I still have nightmares about how glass wool is chasing me, and I read her thoughts.
This was not the end yet. Then there was a small celebration, there was me, my wife and her friend, and the prettiest one. They naturally drank, and looking at this I felt only pity for them. When my wife reached the point of no return from a drunken state to a sober one, I took her away, well, I carried her away, well, I carried her away, dragged her into the bedroom, laid her down, and began snoring. The friend turned out to be much stronger than the wife, she demanded more wine, attention and was not going to leave. Well, then the most unpleasant thing began, she began to confess her love, and when she did not see reciprocity, she began to harass her in a harsh manner. She began to tell me that she had loved me for a long time, that she had always envied my wife, that she had never met anyone like me, that I came to her in a dream and we began to have fun together, etc. Well, when that didn’t work, she undressed and fell asleep... In the morning I didn’t say anything to my wife; I told my sobered up friend everything I thought about her. But that is not all. I soon learned from reliable sources that all these events are connected. Everything that happened is an insidious plan of my wife, the purpose of which is to undermine my moral state. My wife wanted to prove by this that all men are the same, including me. Of course, the shock for a decent person is strong and there is disappointment in his wife, but I decided to remain silent and act using the same methods. I decided to check my wife too. But for this I need a man. Naturally, a man who would please his wife. He would charm her with his appearance and captivate her with his clever speeches. As I once did. So men, if male solidarity has not yet died out in you, if you are ready to help a person of the same sex as you, help.

Saved

Most often, men cheat - this is what is commonly believed in society. But women break promises of fidelity no less often. Their chosen ones take it just as hard and suffer. Moreover, many men simply dream of punishing their wife for cheating, thereby taking revenge on her.

Despite the fact that men are not characterized by open expression of emotions, they also love and experience certain feelings in their own way. Perhaps they don’t show them, don’t share them, but in critical situations they also want to throw out emotions, free their feelings. One such situation is the betrayal of his wife. Due to his character and psychological characteristics, it is easiest for a man to use physical force. That is why, in most cases, tragedies happen, since in a fit of jealousy, deceived husbands injure their wife, her lover, and sometimes it even comes to murder. This cannot be allowed, because the result could be your own broken life. If you want to punish a woman for cheating, then the punishment must meet the following requirements:

  • without causing physical injury, without assault;
  • without violence - physical and psychological;
  • the situation should not concern other people, especially children;
  • A woman's reputation in the eyes of other children should not suffer.

Despite the fact that the wife committed a vile and unpleasant act, it is worth remembering that no one has the right to use physical force against her or humiliate her dignity. The punishment should be such that a woman, first of all, can think, reflect on her own behavior and realize her mistakes, and then apologize.

What should not be allowed

Very often, a man, planning how to punish his wife for cheating, goes so far in his plans that he cannot stop. The feeling of revenge consumes him so much, combined with resentment and jealousy, that it can lead to irreparable mistakes. Such actions are characteristic of weak-willed men who, in their powerlessness, commit base acts:

  • they take away gifts, jewelry, and clothes from a woman;
  • create pages on dating sites or social networks on behalf of the wife and distribute contact information;
  • post intimate photographs of their wife and home videos on the Internet;
  • spread dirty rumors about their wife;
  • change;
  • kicked out of the house;
  • they open their hands, beat, humiliate.

Another wrong point in male behavior is to tell friends or relatives about cheating. After a while, perhaps you will make peace, you will forgive her for her betrayal, but will your parents be able to forgive this? In addition, your friends and acquaintances will constantly whisper behind your back. There is no need to involve children in family squabbles. We are talking about their loved one, their mother.

Such behavior is unworthy of a real man. Yes, there is no need to justify a woman, her betrayal is a completely bad act. But to do one of the listed methods means to sink even lower.

How to cope with the news of betrayal with dignity

The critical moment when a man can commit a rash act is the moment when it becomes known about his wife’s love affairs. The most important thing at this moment is not to hit your wife or her lover, or, even worse, not to kill. The situation is anecdotal, but in real life it is not at all funny, and maintaining composure is not so easy. It is best to remain calm, appear indifferent, and demonstrate to your wife that you do not care at all about her cheating. If she decides to leave for her lover, you can help her pack her things. This behavior will confuse your wife; she expects from you a surge of emotions, anger, rage, but not a caring attitude. This will make her question whether she is doing the right thing.

How to take revenge on your wife for cheating and betrayal

It is clear that, despite outward calm, a man is overwhelmed by emotions after his wife’s betrayal. He begins to think how he can punish a woman for such meanness, for violation of fidelity. There are several sure ways to teach a traitor a lesson:

  • make a major purchase - real estate, car;
  • take care of your appearance - this will give your wife a reason to think that you have someone else;
  • ignore her, communicate only when necessary;
  • if you have sex, make it colder, indifferent;
  • be away from home longer;
  • cut wife's finances;
  • flirt with other women - this way your wife will understand what it’s like to be jealous and betrayed.

This kind of cold war should lead to a woman feeling guilty and unnecessary. She seems to be trying to earn your forgiveness, but she comes across your coldness. He will regret what happened many times and will understand what a mistake he made. But it is important not to overdo it; the punishment for a wife’s betrayal should not drag on for a long time, otherwise, despairing of waiting, the woman will be disappointed and may simply leave for her lover. If you just want to punish her and continue living with your wife, then you need to stop in time. After a couple of weeks, you can start a conversation, which should be just as cold and calm. Yes, you forgive her, but now you hardly believe in fidelity, and in general trust has been lost. This attitude will help ensure that a frightened woman will win your affection with all her might.

If after your wife’s betrayal you broke up, but you also want to teach her a lesson, then the most effective way is to become successful, happy, find your other half, and, on occasion, tell your ex-wife that you have only now learned what fidelity and devotion are.

Family relationships are, unfortunately, not only mutual understanding and love. These are also quarrels, scandals, insults, disappointments. In general, anything can happen. So what should we do? How to teach your husband a lesson for disrespect? Advice from psychologists will help you understand this situation. After all, under no circumstances should we let such a situation take its course.

It is, of course, unpleasant for every woman to hear insults addressed to her. Naturally, there is a desire to insult in return or completely stop communicating with this person forever. The situation is completely different when humiliation and insults come from one’s own spouse. Firstly, his words hurt much more painfully. After all, he knows perfectly well how and where to “hit” you with a word in order to hurt and hook you more precisely. Secondly, leaving and not returning is much more difficult. You are still connected by marriage, children, friends and relatives, common living space, financial dependence. Thinking about what to do in this situation, a woman, as a rule, begins to rush from side to side. But he can’t decide on a certain rational action. This can go on for years. But this is simply unbearable. You need to figure out how to teach your husband a lesson for disrespect. The advice of psychologists in this case will be very helpful. First of all, you need to decide not “what to do,” but “what will happen if you do something, but incorrectly.”

What is the reason?

So, let's act! How to teach your husband a lesson for disrespect? The advice of psychologists may be different, but all experts unanimously say that it is necessary to identify the essence of what is happening, the reason for such behavior.

In most cases, women believe that the reason lies in themselves. Either they “didn’t have time” for something, or they “didn’t do it,” or they “didn’t please.” Either they are “bad mothers,” or “bad cooks,” or “unkind wives.” In fact, this is not the case at all. These are just reasons for the spouse to find fault and throw out his negativity. The real reason lies in the fact that the husband is sadistic in this couple on purpose. He takes pleasure in humiliating the weak. It is impossible to confuse a sadist with any other person. We are all human, of course. Everyone can sometimes swear and be rude. However, in the case of a sadist, everything is completely different. His insults are filled with horrific filth. The vocabulary contains expressions intended not just to call a person, but to offend, cause pain, and humiliate.

The main thing is to act!

As soon as you start thinking about how to teach your husband a lesson for disrespect, the advice of psychologists will become your best assistant. In principle, it is impossible to change such a spouse either with the help of persuasion, or with the help of conspiracies, or with the help of coding, or with the help of hypnosis, and certainly not servility to him will help. Accordingly, it makes no sense to expect that everything will work out and get better on its own. That is, it is necessary to take active action. It is not the husband who needs to be changed. It is necessary to seek protection for yourself and your children.

Fatal mistake

Not every woman thinks about how to teach her husband a lesson for disrespect. The fact is that representatives of the fairer sex are accustomed to adapting to different situations. To adversity in life as well. In addition, our women, due to the peculiarities of their mentality, are much more patient than elsewhere. It is not surprising that they are so simply and easily ready to accept humiliation and insults from a man, slowly getting used to them. And this, of course, is their fatal mistake.

Insulting and humiliating his wife, throwing nasty things at her, the husband deals a painful blow to her psyche. Even if she endures all this, it will not bring anything good. But the worst thing is that each time these attacks “take an upward course.” If initially this was the only rude word, then over time there will be a dozen of them. And then blows may follow. As a result, a woman cannot realize herself in life, hobbies, work, or feel joy and love. She can only expect further attacks every day.

A blow to children

But our children suffer the most from such violence. Unfortunately, among many women there is an opinion that for a child the presence of absolutely any father is very important - even a tyrant and despot, even a name-caller and humiliator, even an alcoholic, as long as there is one. Women console themselves with the fact that he is still their own father. They are even more confident of this if men do not touch children. They endure everything for the sake of marriage and financial assistance.

Naturally, this is a huge misconception. For a child, the mother is always the person who provides him with protection. If they yell at her and cause pain, it means that the baby loses his sense of security. Accordingly, he gets stressed. And this is fraught with negative consequences. Some children begin to steal and lie, others begin to fear death, and still others begin to torture animals.

People rarely connect problems with a child on the one hand and humiliation from a husband on the other. And in vain. The connection is the most direct. Therefore, a woman who wants to maintain peace in her family must definitely figure out how to teach her husband a lesson about disrespect. There are a lot of tips. The main thing is to choose exactly what you need. Stop at the best option.

Most negative outcome

The most dire consequences can be expected if your children have a sound vector. The ears of such children are hypersensitive. That is, they generally require quiet sounds and calmness. If the father yells at the mother, and even throws humiliating words, such a child not only loses the sense of security like other children - he also receives a powerful blow to the most sensitive area. Hearing terrible screams, he may gradually lose contact with the outside world and withdraw into himself. This sometimes even leads to autism or schizophrenia.

In general, a woman, especially if she is a mother, needs to take care of her family. Take the necessary actions that could help in the current situation. In a word, do everything to ensure that the husband respects and appreciates his wife.

Excessive attention

So, the next stage. You figured out the reasons and made conclusions. Now you need to decide how to teach your husband a lesson for disrespect. Psychology offers several methods. The main thing is to correctly define the task. If you still love your husband, you should not make him suffer. This task is so that he can realize his guilt, understand what mistake he made and what pain he caused.

Start giving him undue attention. Most likely, this will not be easy at all. However, it's still worth a try. Give compliments, pleasant surprises, have romantic dinners. For what? Looking at your efforts, your spouse will be able to understand that he really was wrong, that you are the best, and that no one will ever take care of him the way you do. Having realized all this, he will begin to suffer from remorse and repent in the depths of his soul. And self-flagellation, as you know, is the best punishment. If your spouse only slightly offended you, do exactly that.

Inattention

Next method. How to teach your husband a lesson for disrespect? An effective method, the opposite of the one described above, is inattention on your part. If your husband doesn’t see how you try to please him and forgets about important dates, naturally, this is very offensive. However, do not shout or swear. Just keep quiet. He will definitely remember everything he forgot about.

Let's say your husband promised to be back for dinner. Without warning, he goes with friends to a cafe or bar. Do the same to him in revenge. Let him feel like he is in your place.

Has your spouse stopped thanking you for the food you prepared? Think fried potatoes are ordinary? Stop cooking for him altogether. Leave several times without breakfast, lunch or dinner.

Constantly talking about how you are doing nothing while sitting at home? Why endure slander? Sit down at your computer or sit in front of the TV. Don't actually do anything. Let him know what it's like.

Do you want to teach your husband a lesson because he claims that you are “resting” on maternity leave? Leave it with your baby all day. Well, have a shopping day with your friends or visit a spa. It is unlikely that after this he will be able to say that caring for a child is simple and easy.

In case of betrayal

This is probably how one of the most terrible troubles manifests itself, when a husband does not respect his wife. What to do in this case? Someone cannot forgive their spouse and simply breaks up with him. But many loving women, who cannot imagine their lives without insidious traitors, are not ready to take this step.

The easiest way is to declare a boycott. Stop washing and ironing his things, cooking, and helping with something. In general, ignore your husband completely. Communicate with him only in case of emergency. Just remember that this method is quite risky. With this attitude, the spouse can simply leave for another woman. However, think: do you really need such a husband?

One of the most difficult ways to punish a faithful person is indifference. Pretend that his betrayal is completely indifferent to you. Surely he expects scandals, screams, and hysterics from you. And you will act as if nothing happened. Make fun of him from time to time about the fact of his betrayal. In this case, he will definitely begin to be tormented by remorse. He will ask you for forgiveness and try to justify himself. Any man will be shocked by such a reaction. Thoughts will appear in your head that you have stopped loving him, that you need to somehow atone for your guilt. According to many psychologists, this will serve as an excellent lesson for the future for your spouse.

In case of drunkenness

Another big problem. Why does the husband not respect his wife, driving her to nervous breakdowns with his daily drinking and partying? Perhaps he cannot cope with this addiction? Or maybe he doesn’t even try, doing it out of pure selfishness or, even worse, out of spite for his wife?

What to do? To begin with, take into account absolutely all the consequences that his drunkenness affects. If this happens regularly and ruins your plans, he definitely needs to be taught a good lesson.

It is best to present your husband in the most unflattering way possible. Show him how stupid he looks when he's drunk. Give free rein to your imagination by choosing your punishment. You can cover his fingernails with a bright polish and hide the nail polish remover away. Give it only when he asks you for forgiveness. You can draw a mustache with a waterproof marker or write an obscene word on your forehead. You can paint your lips. Or you can even cut the clothes he came in so that in the morning you can ask where he was wearing it.

Results

Let's summarize. How to teach a husband to respect his wife? Just love yourself. And respect yourself. Don't let your spouse be rude to you, offend you, cheat on you, or beat you. But if this happens, be sure to teach it a lesson first. Perhaps this was the first and only time... And do not forget to talk frankly with your husband after that. Try to find out what motivated him in a given situation. Who knows, maybe this will make you look at the situation with different eyes?

When your significant other cheats, the first thing you want to do is take revenge. It is quite difficult for men and women to endure betrayal, since their relationship should involve fidelity, not betrayal. If the wife went to the left, then the man may want to somehow punish her for this, which will allow him to experience some sense of satisfaction. The men's site will tell you what you can do to satisfy your desires.

What is treason? This is the transfer of one’s resources not to the person who is considered the official partner in love or marriage, but to a third person. Often, betrayal refers to the sexual relationship of one of the spouses with a lover or mistress. However, this is not always a complete definition. There are situations when mistresses and lovers are made for moral satisfaction, entertainment and general pastime. Sometimes a woman can begin to cheat sexually in order to thus improve the financial situation of the family. On the one hand, she physically betrays, and on the other hand, she solves a money problem in the family that her husband cannot solve.

Cheating in any form is unpleasant because:

  1. A person who cheats directs his positive forces, emotions and resources to a person who is not part of the family. That is, the wife gives her love, smile and tenderness not to her husband, but to her lover. I wonder how a husband would begin to treat his wife, who over time never ceases to give him love and affection? Most likely, everything would be good and wonderful in their relationship.
  2. A person who cheats gives a third party something that should be received exclusively by his other half. Here we are talking about love, body, money, and other components of any kind.

A husband may feel aggressive and angry that his wife is cheating because it hurts his self-esteem. The wife secretly says that her husband is somehow not up to the level of the lover she is sleeping with. And since the husband is imperfect in her understanding, this infuriates him.

Some men go to deal with their lovers, so to speak, like men. However, psychologists do not consider this option the right solution. A lover is, by and large, a pawn in a game played by a woman. Yes, he looks after her, sleeps, touches her. However, if the woman did not allow him to do this, then there would be no betrayal.

Dealing with your wife's lover is considered the wrong approach. The lover might not even know about the presence of a husband. The lover himself could become a victim of a woman who began to “creep” in front of him and beckon to her. A lover owes nothing to a husband who is offended. But the wife... It is she who needs to be dealt with by a man who finds out about the betrayal.

Ways to punish a wife for infidelity

A husband who has cast his lot with a particular woman in the hope that she will keep him safe will be very angry if he finds out about the betrayal. Spouses commit themselves when they get married. Contrary to the “rosy” idea of ​​what a wedding and marriage is, people must understand that at the moment of celebrating their marriage, they take upon themselves certain responsibilities that must be fulfilled unconditionally. One such duty is fidelity, which, if broken, will force the other spouse to punish in various ways.

From time immemorial, a man has been considered the head of the family, who cannot be disobeyed or hurt. Of course, modern traditions have changed a little. However, the man continues to consider himself the head of the family. A wife, in the understanding of some men, is their property, who has no right to commit acts that will humiliate them, offend them or cause pain in any way.

If a husband finds out about his wife’s infidelity, then he has an all-encompassing desire to punish her. Before we move on to options for revenge, we should think about how much the husband has the right to do this. No doubt he was offended. However, the woman had her own motives for committing a treacherous act, which were often provoked by the unworthy behavior of the man himself. Let's take the option when the husband himself cheats, but will not tolerate it if his wife cheats on him. This option is unfair, so the husband, of course, can take revenge on his wife, but she is also right in her actions.

There are a lot of options for revenge, which depends to a large extent on the upbringing of the man himself and the measures that he considers effective in his case:

  1. A violent method when the husband begins to inflict moral or physical violence on the woman. This is often practiced in countries where a woman still retains the status of her husband’s “thing.” So, a man may demand to have sex with him, beat his wife, start lecturing her, read morals, demand explanations. Often men resort to conversations using some physical force, when they hold women tightly by the hands, push them against walls or lock them in apartments.

However, psychologists do not recommend resorting to such measures. Firstly, the present time is not a house-building period. A husband who raised his hand against a woman, even if she cheated on him, may face criminal penalties. If a woman is not a timid woman, then she will definitely demand compensation from her husband for restoring her health.

Secondly, the husband must understand that by taking such measures he will only encourage his wife to divorce him. And this decision will be final! If a man simply wants to educate his wife, then he should resort not to physical, but to psychological methods. And if you use assault, you can only bring the matter to divorce.

If you want to take revenge in order to get moral satisfaction, then the first method is no good. Better beat your wife's lover or just go to the gym. But you cannot raise your hand against a woman, no matter how fallen in your opinion she may be. Instead of physical violence, resort to psychological techniques, which are more effective, especially if you want to save the family and not destroy it.

How to properly punish your wife?

What psychological methods can be used to properly punish your wife:

  1. Spreading gossip. Here you need to be extremely careful so as not to expose yourself to the fire of indignation. You can place an advertisement offering sexual services and indicate your wife’s number. You can create a fake page where you can post photographs of your wife in an unflattering light. If her lover comes to this page, he himself may want to not meet with her again. You can also invite her friends, relatives, etc. to this page.
  2. Treason. Since the wife is cheating, then the husband has every right to do the same. Moreover, for greater moral satisfaction, it is better to choose her friend as a mistress. This will hit her self-esteem very hard. If your friends don’t take the bait, then you can just have an affair with some beauty. Do this so that your wife definitely finds out about your relationship and even sees your mistress, who may be younger than her, more beautiful.
  3. Damage to property. Here you should act within the law when you damage things that are not too expensive. This will allow you to vent your anger.
  4. Cooling towards the spouse. You can simply arouse suspicion in your wife that you have someone. Stop sleeping with her. Start playing sports and getting yourself in order. Start going somewhere in the evenings, without saying where. Behave coldly towards your wife, which will not be very difficult to do, since you have already cooled off towards her a little because of the betrayal.
  5. Cutting your financial costs. If your wife lives at your expense or spends your money, then you can deprive her of such a privilege. Now let her lover pay for everything for her, which you can tell her directly. And you are not going to pay for her entertainment.
  6. Refusal to spend time together. If the wife continues to publicly play the role of a submissive and faithful spouse, then you can use this option. Since everyone thinks your marriage is perfect, start busting this myth. If you need to go somewhere with your spouse, where your mutual friends and relatives will be, then don’t go. Stop going anywhere with her at all, which she already compensates for with her lover.
  7. Termination of cohabitation with her. You don't have to get a divorce if you're not ready for it. You can simply stop communicating with your wife and spend time together. If you have a separate home, then you can go there for a while so that your wife can live without you and think about her behavior.

Of course, the best way to punish your wife is to file an application for divorce with the registry office. Here the wife, if she doesn’t want to break up with you, will get very worried. She will not want to divorce you because if she does, she will lose something. For example, you constantly provided for her financially, but she did not work and lived for her own pleasure. If you are a rich man, and she chose a poor man as her lover, who just happened to be handsome and passionate, then she will definitely be afraid of this turn of events.

If a woman has something to lose in connection with a divorce, then she will be ready to part with her lover, as long as her husband does not leave. The more a woman is afraid, the better. It’s good if you don’t pick up applications from the registry office for a long time. You may even consider the option that you will follow through and divorce your wife, in whom, most likely, you have already lost trust. However, you can offer her to be your mistress, which she was for her lover while she cuckolded you. If she doesn't want to lose you, then invite her to be your lover until you are single and have not found another woman to love. This will greatly humiliate and insult the ex-wife, although she does not deserve any other role.

And it’s worth considering another way to punish a wife for her own humiliation - divorce and improving her life.

The assumption here is that you will divorce your wife, and after that you will simply begin to improve your life:

  • Go to the gym and update your wardrobe to get yourself in order.
  • You will begin to climb the career ladder or increase your material income in other ways.
  • You will start dating beautiful women. It’s better, of course, to just find one beauty with whom you will build a new relationship. You can even get married, but not to spite your ex, but because you really found a good match for yourself.

Your ex-wife should know about all your achievements. How this will happen does not matter. The main thing is that your ex sees how your life is improving after she lost you due to her own stupidity. And now some other young lady is enjoying all these benefits.

Bottom line

Cheating is unpleasant for any person. One of the desires is revenge, when you want to punish someone you previously trusted. For revenge to be sweet, you need to think it through and make it so that it hits not the body, but the pride. It is especially good if revenge is carried out when the wife is feeling bad, unhappy and lonely. Then she will understand exactly what betrayal and betrayal lead to.