If a girl is beautiful, it would seem that she must definitely meet a worthy man and be happy. But things don't always happen this way. The fact is that attractive ladies usually know their worth, so they approach the choice of their life partner very responsibly. They often place exaggerated demands on members of the opposite sex, which include beautiful appearance, reliability, high income, social status, degree of responsibility, ability to court and care for their other half.
A beautiful girl meets a man and begins to mentally analyze his compliance with the ideal. As soon as a woman realizes that a man is a little short of her reach, she immediately breaks all ties with him and goes in search of a new contender as her lover. Such searches can take too long, and female beauty does not last forever. This can leave attractive girls lonely.
Besides, some men are simply afraid of beautiful women. Not only do they not dare to get to know them, but they are also worried because a large number of men are vying for the heart and hand of this representative of the fairer sex. At the same time, self-confidence fades, and the man prefers to give up in order to find someone simpler.
The third reason why beauties can be unhappy in love lies in their character. They may be hampered by bitchiness or high self-esteem, which results in loneliness.
Does appearance affect happiness in love?
Of course, if a beautiful girl meets a cowardly man who avoids getting to know her, she is in nothing. But this does not mean at all that she will suffer because of her beauty. Over time, she will definitely meet that worthy man who will not be afraid of competition and will achieve the favor of a beautiful lady.
Family happiness is largely influenced by the character and behavior of the fairer sex, and if she does not know how to teach herself correctly, then there is no point in blaming natural attractiveness for her misfortune. In order not to encounter unhappy love, you need to learn to control your emotions and have not only a beautiful appearance, but also inner beauty. The woman who will be loved will be the one who can give others warmth, care and sincere feelings.
There are rumors that beautiful girls suffer from loneliness. Indeed, you can often meet a simply stunning woman who spends time alone, goes to parties without a companion. At the same time, average girls who do not stand out in any way are happy in marriage. What is the phenomenon and why are beautiful girls lonely?
There are many reasons why beauties are often lonely, but psychologists identify several main ones:
- Ladies have too high demands on men. Most often this happens if she has been alone for a long time and has already formed as a person. Her ideas about the ideal man are well established. And if the candidate does not answer even the smallest point, he immediately rejects him.
- Heightened self-esteem. Often the answer to the question why beautiful girls are unlucky lies in where and in what conditions they grow up. Such beauties are simply very selfish and their character is, to put it mildly, self-centered.
- She is still waiting for the prince and it just doesn’t fit into her head that she can take the initiative herself. Guys don’t approach such a lady either, because they think she’s too good for them. As a result, understatement results in guys dating “simpler” girls, while those same beauties are left alone and while away their evenings with cats.
- She is attractive and beautiful, but reserved. This happens if a girl’s beauty was endowed by nature, and not by makeup and a plastic surgeon. And in this case, she will be lonely, not because she is beautiful, but because she simply doesn’t need anyone - that’s her character.
Important! Another important reason why beautiful girls are so lonely is the unsuitable environment. More often it happens that among her acquaintances, friends, colleagues there is no normal guy with whom she might be interested.
Why beautiful girls don't have boyfriends: the reason is success
An explosive mixture - beautiful and successful = lonely. And indeed it is. The reason why guys are afraid of beautiful girls who have also reached certain heights is extremely simple - they don’t want to get lost against her background. If the situation where a girl provides for herself and can support her family can still be perceived to some extent. But if she is also beautiful, then this really hits a man’s pride. They just don’t want to see such a clear example of their failures with them.
Moreover, such girls do not see anything wrong with paying for themselves in a cafe, and maybe also for him. Give him an expensive watch, etc. Another problem arises when a lady shows with all her appearance that a man with her status is simply not needed if she “can do everything herself.” A man will not want to participate in such a game, because at least somehow he needs to show his masculinity.
Why are beautiful girls unlucky in relationships?
But not all girls who are lucky enough to be beautiful or who made themselves so don’t have a partner. They may have gentlemen. But for some reason they don’t stay long. And here comes another reason why beautiful girls are always lonely: they are the object of adoration and desire. But not every guy is ready to stand when his beloved is looked at as a tasty morsel. As a result, jealousy, constant nagging, and reproaches arise. Even if she is faithful, he will not be able to withstand such a dictatorial attitude for long, and he will become bored with constant suspicions. The result is simple and prosaic - they break up, often in scandalous and complicated ways.
Another problem is how the girl actually perceives herself. Quite pretty, she may consider herself ugly. But there are a number of other reasons why beautiful girls don’t have boyfriends:
- She has an inferiority complex. Someone once said that she was “not like that” and it stuck in my head. Moreover, the phrases that cause such insecurity can be different: “I’m ugly,” “I’m too thin/fat,” even “I’m too beautiful.” Sometimes it reaches the point of absurdity, but no one has ever been able to unravel the woman.
- Feminization. Here the choice to be single is completely in her power. She is building a career, getting herself in order. She uses men only as tools to achieve her own goals. And then many who surround her wonder why no one meets such beautiful girls. Yes, it’s simple, such a lady doesn’t need it and she shows it with all her looks.
- The importance of motherhood. A woman gives birth to a child “for herself” (although he needs a full-fledged family), understands little about contraception, and has the attitude that she needs to give birth in any case. As a result, a quite beautiful young girl becomes a mother and now she is simply not interested in men - she transfers all her love and care to the baby. And even when he grows up, she lives according to that hedgehog algorithm. Why change anything?
Important! Most often, men see only the cover in beautiful girls, without even trying to look inside. And what girl with a deep inner world would like such a consumerist attitude towards herself?
Why are men afraid of beautiful girls and do not pay attention to them?
Oddly enough, but guys are often really afraid of beauties and try not to pay attention to them, at least they create such an appearance. There are several reasons for this:
- The first reason why men avoid beautiful girls is the fear of being rejected. Because because of this, their self-esteem may suffer, which they do not want to lower under any circumstances.
- The man thinks that she won’t like her, because there are so many prettier/smarter/pumpier/richer people around.
- Another reason why they don’t pay attention to beautiful girls is the confidence that she is definitely not alone, because she simply cannot while away long evenings in the company of TV.
- Men are afraid of high demands and the fact that they will leave him without explanation.
- Fear of being in her shadow or, conversely, in the spotlight with such a spectacular woman.
Parting words to beauties
If you are still single, despite your attractiveness, perhaps it is time to take the initiative, because men are so indecisive. It is worth showing that behind beauty there is content and you are ready to share it with the one and only.
According to statistics, men least of all want to be around beautiful women, intellectuals and physically strong ladies.
According to scientists, about 70% of men surveyed begin to feel uncomfortable and vulnerable when communicating with beautiful women.
Many representatives of the stronger sex, seeing a lonely beautiful woman behind a cafe, are unlikely to dare to approach her, preferring to admire from afar without disturbing her peace. There are many reasons for this. The main one is the fear of being rejected, and no amount of pickup lessons or self-esteem courses will help you overcome yourself. According to the opinion, such a beauty probably already has someone. And most likely this someone is smart, successful, rich, and so on.
Another reason is the assumption that being beautiful will require special treatment. You need to be able to handle it, but you simply don’t want to waste time and effort on all this. Therefore, a man will prefer to be in relationships with ordinary women, and look at beauties from afar and make them the object of his male fantasies. Although this is just a stereotype, because any woman would hardly refuse expensive gifts, invitations to luxury restaurants and other beautiful courtships.
It is not enough to do everything possible to achieve a beautiful woman: then you will have to make special efforts to keep her.
It's all about jealousy
Even if a man wins the favor of a beautiful woman, it will still seem to him that everyone around wants to be near her and uses every opportunity to take her away. With such thoughts, everything is boiling inside, because the loss in this situation will be experienced more acutely.
Naturally, I would like to be the first and only one in the life of my beloved, and when I look at a beautiful woman, thoughts about the army of her previous and future admirers immediately arise in my head. Such an attractive person is a “real diamond”, a work of art. And as you know, masterpieces belong to everyone and no one at the same time. Thus, a feeling of jealousy arises in relation not only to her probable past, but also to her future.
It's her own fault
Sometimes beauties remain lonely due to their own fault. Some of them value their natural gifts too much, so they expect something supernatural. As one of the popular songs says: “That’s why you’re lonely because you keep waiting for a fairy-tale prince...” But there really aren’t enough princes for everyone.
A beautiful woman is inevitably happy in love - after all, she is beautiful! This is what many, many (not all, not all!) beautiful women think, over and over again running into the inexplicable - they are beautiful, but nothing works out in love.
It would be nice if she were a simpleton, then everything could be easily explained by flaws in appearance. So there are no flaws! Why then “unlucky in love”? How so?
Well, let me explain.
I always say - relationships are valued for their safe and nurturing environment.
The Small Academic Dictionary of the Russian Language will quickly explain to you what I mean. Security is “a situation in which someone, something. there is no danger." And a nutrient medium is “an environment conducive to the strengthening and development of something, creating the ground for something.”
A relationship is good when the people in it do not feel threatened and can grow (in broad positive ways). Relationships become bad when they are constantly threatened (at least for one of the spouses) and/or when there is no opportunity for development.
Therefore, the key criterion for choosing a person for a relationship is the ability to create this safest and most nurturing environment. Please read carefully - this is exactly the key one, that is, “the most significant in any way.” attitude."
Of course, smell or appearance are very important when choosing a partner, but still not as important as the ability to create a safe and nurturing environment.
And here we get to the answer to the question about the unhappiness of some (not all, not all!) beautiful women in love.
Those beautiful women who just can’t meet “their love”, they simply don’t know how to create a safe and nurturing environment in a relationship. They think that their good looks are enough, and they are seriously mistaken.
And then they are endlessly surprised that “this simpleton” bypassed them at the turn and “stole the man.” No, she didn’t take me away, but it just turned out to be much safer and more nourishing with her than with you. That's the whole secret.
Of course, everything said above applies to men too. This is a common cause of failure in love - the inability to create a safe and nurturing environment.
Few women want to be next to a man who constantly threatens to beat him and suppresses any desire for development (for example, constantly telling the woman how ugly she is). Any woman wants to be as far away from such a man as possible. Not everyone succeeds (for various reasons), but everyone wants to.
The ways in which people (including beautiful women) destroy the environment of safety and nutrition are numerous. Here there is devaluation, and ignoring, from reproaches, and physical violence, and sex trafficking, and financial violence, and lack of gratitude, and lack of interest, and many, many, many, many, many other ways.
As you understand, everyone is unhappy in their own way.
This raises the question - what to do? The solution is obvious - of course, you need to learn to create a safe and nurturing environment. I can't say it's easy, but it is possible.
First of all, any at least somewhat adequate group therapy is built precisely on the fact that it teaches (most often, gradually) people to build just such relationships - safe and nourishing. You can find such psychotherapeutic groups in Yandex - enter the query “group psychotherapy” and substitute the name of your city (“in Grodno”), for example. I found it in a minute.
In addition, I recommend that fellow psychologists who engage in group psychotherapy leave their contacts directly in the comments (city, telephone, email, website, full name). People who need it will contact you.
“Marilyn Monroe Syndrome” is a scenario for the life of a beautiful, but lonely and actually unhappy woman.
Why are beautiful girls lonely and unhappy in real life?
It often happens in life that a beautiful girl is actually very lonely and unhappy. It’s not for nothing that people have a saying: “Don’t be born beautiful, but be born happy.”
Why does this happen, why does a beautiful and happy girl often only appear in fairy tales?
What is Marilyn Monroe syndrome - a beautiful and unhappy woman, you will find out by reading the article to the end.
Girl with Marilyn Monroe Syndrome
Who is she, a beautiful and unhappy girl with Marilyn Monroe syndrome? This is a representative of the fair sex who has a negative life scenario.
Those. her lifestyle and interactions with the opposite sex are based on her internal beliefs (script settings) aimed at loneliness - the girl’s beauty itself has nothing to do with it.
This is why beautiful girls are lonely and unhappy - only because of the internal parental program in their heads (unconscious attitudes about themselves, other people and the world as a whole, laid down in childhood by parents and the environment).
A girl who has the life scenario (syndrome) of Marilyn Monroe has all the standard signs of “female beauty,” but her problem is that she, more often than not, subconsciously, does not value herself as a person, and does not truly believe in her true attractiveness.
She considers herself limited and unattractive. And when she looks in the mirror, she does not see the beauty that other people see. This beautiful woman is trying to discern any imperfections in herself.
An unfortunate lonely beauty with Marilyn Monroe syndrome has not been taught to accept compliments and attention for her beautiful appearance. Her inner desire is to be loved for her personal qualities, but strangely enough, no one notices them.
This unfortunate girl, having a beautiful appearance that others can only dream of, is often angry with people because they do not value her as a person. Having accumulated a lot of negative emotions, in particular anger, she may begin to take revenge for not accepting herself.
She, being a beautiful woman, can have many men and just admirers, constantly being in a subconscious search for a prince. She can give men everything except herself.
Sometimes, this girl who has Marilyn Monroe syndrome can find her prince (as she thinks) and fall in love with him. Then life seems like a fairy tale to her. But usually, this wonderful fairy tale does not last long, six months or a year.
Then the "prince", usually attracted to other beautiful women, and the unfortunate beauty begins to suffer from depression, aggravated by many cigarettes smoked and, possibly, alcohol.
Over time, she becomes too hostile to people, and, as a rule, ends her life alone, no one loves her, not even herself.
Beautiful woman syndrome (Marilyn Monroe syndrome)
It is the beautiful woman syndrome, or as it is also called the Marilyn Monroe syndrome (due to the similarity of the life, rather unhappy scenario), that makes a truly beautiful girl lonely and unhappy. She lives, although sometimes bright, but far from happy and short life.Marilyn Monroe syndrome itself can appear in a girl during adolescence, but the basis for such a negative life scenario is laid in early childhood, through child-parent relationships, often negative upbringing and primary socialization.
Because significant people reacted only to her beauty and not to her personality, and this unfortunate and beautiful woman unconsciously creates a social mask based on her feminine sexuality and attractiveness. She uses this mask to achieve what she wants in life, especially from men.
At the same time, she constantly suffers mentally due to the fact that she cannot and does not know how to be herself, and does not know how to be in real close relationships.
How to be a beautiful woman and become a happy woman
Currently, there are quite a lot of beautiful girls with the Marilyn Monroe syndrome (scenario), living their lives according to a similar negative scenario, and suffering from the “beautiful woman syndrome.”
What to do, how, being a beautiful girl, become a happy woman, how to change the scenario of life, how to change your destiny?
If in words..., then everything looks simple: she needs to start accepting compliments and attentions only for personal qualities, and not for her beautiful appearance; she definitely needs to love herself and not look for flaws in herself, and enjoy her inner and outer beauty; she needs to learn how to build relationships with men who value her as a person...
It is advisable for women with Marilyn Monroe syndrome to enroll in a women's personal growth group to learn to enjoy the power over life and find out what else to work on in themselves.
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