Her mother will ask: “Nastenka, tidy up your toys,” and Nastenka replies: “You need it, you clean it up!” Mom will put a plate of porridge in front of Nastenka for breakfast, butter the bread, pour cocoa, and Nastenka will throw the plate on the floor and shout: “I won’t eat this disgusting porridge, you need to eat it yourself, but I want sweets, cakes and oranges! And in the store she didn’t have a clue when she liked some toy, she would stamp her feet and squeal for the whole store to hear: “I want it, buy it!” Buy it immediately, I said!” And it doesn’t matter to her that mom doesn’t have money and that mom is ashamed for such an ill-mannered daughter, but Nastenka, you know, screams: “You don’t love me! You must buy me everything I ask for! You don’t need me, right?!” Mom tried to talk to Nastenka, convince her that she shouldn’t behave like that, that it was ugly, tried to persuade her to be an obedient girl, but Nastenka didn’t care.
One day Nastenka had a very strong fight with her mother in the store, because her mother did not buy her another toy, Nastenka got angry and shouted angry words to her mother: “You are a bad mother!” I don't want a mom like you! I do not love you anymore! I don't need you! Leave!". Mom didn’t answer anything, she just cried quietly and went wherever her eyes looked and, without noticing that the further she went, the further Nastenka became from her, she forgot that she had a daughter. And when my mother left the city, it turned out that she had forgotten both her house and Nastenka, and forgot everything about herself.
After the quarrel, Nastenka turned around and went home, didn’t even look back at her mother, she thought her mother was coming, as always, after, having forgiven everything to her beloved daughter. I came to the house, looked, but my mother was not there. Nastenka was glad that she was left alone at home; she had never been left alone before. She threw off her shoes and blouse haphazardly, threw them right on the floor in the hallway, and went into the room. First of all, I took out a bowl of sweets, turned on the TV and lay down on the sofa to watch cartoons. The cartoons are interesting, the candies are delicious, Nastenka didn’t notice that evening had come. It’s dark outside the window, it’s dark in the room, only a little light from the TV falls on Nastenka’s sofa, and from the corners there’s a shadow, darkness creeping in. Nastenka felt scared, uncomfortable, lonely. Nastenka thinks that her mother has been gone for a long time, when will she come. And my tummy already hurts from the sweets, and I want to eat, but my mother still doesn’t come. The clock has already struck ten times, it’s already one in the morning, Nastenka has never been awake so late, and her mother still hasn’t come. And all around there are rustling noises, knocking noises, and crackling noises. And it seems to Nastenka that someone is walking in the corridor, creeping up to the room, and then suddenly it seems that the doorknob is knocking, but she is still alone. And Nastenka is already tired, and she wants to sleep, but she can’t sleep - she’s scared, and Nastenka thinks: “Well, where is mom, when will she come?”
Nastenka huddled in the corner of the sofa, covered her head with a blanket, covered her ears with her hands, and sat there all night until the morning, shaking with fear, and her mother never came.
There is nothing to do, Nastenka decided to go look for her mother. She left the house, but didn’t know where to go. I walked and wandered the streets, I was cold, I didn’t think to dress warmer myself, but there was no one to tell me, and there was no mother. Nastenka wants to eat, in the morning she only ate a piece of bread, but the day turns towards evening again, it’s about to start getting dark, and she’s afraid to go home.
Nastenka went into the park, sat down on a bench, sat there, crying, feeling sorry for herself. An old woman came up to her and asked: “Why are you crying little girl? Who offended you?”, and Nastenka replies: “My mother offended me, left me, left me alone, abandoned me, but I want to eat and I’m scared to sit at home alone in the dark, and I can’t find her anywhere. What should I do?" And that old lady was not simple, but magical, and she knew everything about everyone. The old woman stroked Nastenka’s head and said: “You Nastenka offended your mother very much, you drove her away from you. From such resentment, the heart becomes covered with an icy crust and a person leaves wherever his eyes look, and forgets everything about his past life. The further he goes, the more he forgets. And if three days and three nights pass after your quarrel, and you don’t find your mother and don’t ask her for forgiveness, then she will forget everything forever and will never remember anything from her past life again.” “Where can I look for her,” Nastenka asks, “I’ve already been running around the streets all day, looking for her, but I can’t find her?” “I’ll give you a magic compass,” says the old woman, “instead of an arrow there is a heart.” Go to the place where you and your mother quarreled, look carefully at the compass, where the sharp tip of the heart points, that’s where you need to go. Look, hurry up, you don’t have much time left, and the path is long!” The old woman said this and disappeared, as if she had never existed at all. Nastenka thought that she had imagined everything, but no, there’s a compass, here it is, clutched in her fist, and instead of an arrow, there’s a golden heart on it.
Nastenka jumped up from the bench, ran to the store, to the very place where she had offended her mother, stood there, looked at the compass and suddenly saw her heart come to life, fluttered, darted around in a circle and stood up, tensed, pointing in one direction with its sharp tip , trembles, as if in a hurry. Nastenka ran with all her might. She ran, she ran, now the city was over, the forest was beginning, the branches were whipping her face, the roots of the trees were preventing her from running, they were clinging to her legs, there was a stabbing pain in her side, she had almost no strength left, but Nastenka was running. Meanwhile, evening had already come, it was dark in the forest, the heart on the compass was no longer visible, there was nothing to do, we had to settle down for the night. Nastenka hid in a hole between the roots of a large pine tree and curled up into a ball. It’s cold to lie on the bare ground, the rough bark scratches your cheek, the needles prick through your thin T-shirt, and there are rustling noises all around, it’s scary for Nastenka. Now it seems to her that wolves are howling, now it seems that the branches are cracking - a bear is making its way after her, Nastenka has shrunk into a ball and is crying. Suddenly she sees a squirrel galloping up to her and asks: “Why are you crying, girl, and why are you sleeping in the forest at night, alone?” Nastenka answers: “I offended my mother, now I’m looking for her to ask for forgiveness, but here it’s dark, scary and I really want to eat.” “Don’t be afraid, no one will hurt you in our forest,” says the squirrel, “we don’t have wolves or bears, and I’ll treat you with nuts now.” The squirrel called her cubs, they brought Nastenka some nuts, Nastenka ate, and fell asleep. I woke up with the first rays of the sun, ran further, the heart on the compass urged me on, hurried me, the last day remained.
Nastenka ran for a long time, all her legs were knocked down, she looked - there was a gap between the trees, a green lawn, a blue lake, and by the lake there was a beautiful house, painted shutters, a cockerel weather vane on the roof, and near the house Nastenkina’s mother was playing with some other people’s children - cheerful , joyful. Nastenka looks, can’t believe her eyes - other people’s children call her Nastenka’s mother mom, but she responds as if this is how it should be.
Nastenka burst into tears, sobbed loudly, ran up to her mother, wrapped her arms around her, pressed herself against her with all her might, and Nastenka’s mother stroked Nastenka’s head and asked: “What happened, girl, did you hurt yourself, or did you get lost?” Nastenka shouts: “Mom, it’s me, your daughter!”, and mom forgot everything. Nastenka began to cry more than ever, clung to her mother, shouting: “Forgive me, mommy, I will never behave like this again, I will become the most obedient, just forgive me, I love you more than anyone, I don’t need any other mother!” And a miracle happened - the ice crust on my mother’s heart melted, she recognized Nastenka, hugged her, and kissed her. I introduced Nastenka to the children, and they turned out to be little fairies. It turns out that fairies do not have parents, they are born in flowers, eat pollen and nectar, and drink dew, so when Nastenka’s mother came to them, they were very happy that they would now also have their own mother. Nastenka and her mother stayed with the fairies for a week and promised to come visit, and a week later, the fairies brought Nastenka and her mother home. Nastenka never quarreled or argued with her mother again, but helped in everything and became a real little housewife.
I really want to believe that this slightly surprising, slightly magical story will be instructive for someone. Once upon a time there lived a boy. His name was Dima. He was eight years old and in second grade. It must be said that Dima was a very smart boy from childhood, he began to speak early, and at the age of five he could already write and read a little. But he had one drawback, for which he was constantly scolded both at home and at school.
He did not obey his mother and father, and often his teachers. For example, his mother will tell him: “Dima, it’s cold outside today, please put on a warm jacket.” And the son will only wave it off: “And I won’t freeze in a jacket!” And what do you think? I didn’t listen to my mother and got sick. Or dad will tell him: “Son, you don’t need to walk through deep puddles in rubber ones, you might fall through or scoop up water with your boot.” Do you think Dima listened to his father's advice? Not a bit! And here is the result: boots full of water! So what are you going to do with it!?
Before going to bed, mom and Dima read books, then hugged for a long, long time, wishing each other good night. Mom turned on the night light, slowly closed the door, and Dima tried to sleep. But he was usually bad at it. Either he will lie on his right side, then on his left, across the bed, or he will sit and sit. And at this time an old grandmother was looking into his window. Who could it be? It was Dryoma - a gray-haired old woman with a ball of thread and knitting needles. She quietly sat down on the ledge and began to knit, whispering various fairy tales and songs under her breath, sometimes saying: “Sleep, little eye, go to sleep, another one, the night has come, it’s time to sleep, until the morning, until the morning...” But Dima did not fall asleep, then Granny Dryoma shook her head and moved to the next window, where the neighbor girl Lisa lived.
After Drema, old man Dream came to Dima’s window, with Cat Bayun sitting on his shoulder. The old man blew on Dima's eyelashes, calming the boy, and Cat Bayun pulled a dream out of his bag for Dima. If a boy behaved well during the day, he would have a good, good sleep; if he behaved poorly, he would have a restless, melancholy sleep. Dima usually had not very good dreams: either he would dream of a neighbor’s black cat, which he was afraid of, or some difficult problem in class that he could not solve. And all because Dima did not obey his mom and dad.
And then one day Dima accidentally saw Cat Bayun sitting on the ledge and looking for a dream for the boy in his bag. At first Dima was very scared, he thought it was a neighbor’s cat, but then, looking closer, he was convinced that it was a completely different cat, quite cute.
“Kitty-kitty-kitty,” he called the cat.
- Mur-mur-mur, hello, Dima! - Cat Bayun purred.
- Wow! Talking cat! How do you know my name? – the boy was surprised.
- I am the magical Cat Bayun, I know a lot of things, for example, that today you again did not listen to your grandmother.
- Oh! – Dima was scared.
- Don’t be afraid, I won’t offend you, but here’s the problem: those who behave well receive good dreams from me, naughty children receive restless dreams as a gift from me.
- So that's why I sleep so badly! – Dima caught himself.
“Yes, yes, to get a serene, restless sleep,” yawned Cat Bayun. - You need to behave well.
- What a nice cat you are! Thank you! Now I will obey my mom and dad, I will sleep soundly, have good dreams, and then I will grow up big and strong!
The cat Bayun did not answer anything, thought a little and took out a good, affectionate dream for Dima from his bag. The boy fell fast asleep and saw how in a dream he was sailing on a large ship on a huge sea, the sun was shining brightly, a warm breeze was blowing and the sails were inflating. Cat Bayun smiled and, stepping with his soft paws, silently went on to distribute his dreams.
Age: 4-9 years.
Focus: Conflict relationships with parents. Negative feelings (resentment, anger, etc.) towards parents. Inappropriate response to punishment and disapproval.
Key phrase: “Mom doesn’t love me at all! If she loved me, she wouldn’t punish me.”
Bunny lived in a cozy house on the edge of the forest. One day he wanted to play with his friends in a sunny meadow.
Mom, can I go for a walk with my friends?” he asked.
Of course you can,” said my mother, “just don’t be late for dinner.” When the cuckoo crows three times, come home, otherwise I will worry.
“I’ll definitely come on time,” said the Bunny and ran for a walk.
The sun was shining brightly in the forest clearing, and the animals were happily playing hide and seek, then tag, then leapfrog... The cuckoo crowed three times, and four, and five times. But the Bunny was so carried away by the game that he did not hear her. And only when evening came and the animals began to go home, the Bunny also happily ran home to his mother.
But his mother was very angry with him for being late. She scolded the Bunny and forbade him to leave the house as punishment. The bunny was offended by his mother: he didn’t want to upset her, he just played with his friends and completely forgot about time, and he was so unfairly punished. “Mom doesn’t love me at all,” thought the Bunny. “If she loved me, she wouldn’t punish me.”
And the Bunny ran away from home into the forest, found a hole and decided to stay there and live. At night it started to rain, it became cold and uncomfortable. The bunny felt very lonely, he wanted to go home to his mother, but he could not forgive her for punishing him.
In the morning, the Bunny was awakened by the chatter of magpies who were sitting in a nearby tree. “Poor Hare,” said one magpie to another. “Yesterday her Little Hare ran away from home, she spent the whole night looking for him in the forest in the rain, and now she is seriously ill from grief and anxiety.”
Hearing these words, the Bunny thought: “Since my mother is worried about me, it means that she probably loves me. She got sick because I ran away, and now she feels very bad. I have to forgive her and go home because I love her too.” And the Bunny rushed home.
As soon as mom saw him, she immediately recovered, got out of bed and affectionately hugged her Little Bunny.
“I’m so glad that you’re back, my dear,” said my mother. “I felt very bad without you, because I love you so much.”
“I love you too, mommy,” said the Bunny.
Since then, Bunny and his mother lived together and were not offended by each other. The bunny realized that his mother loves him and will always love him, no matter what happens.
Issues for discussion
Why was the Bunny offended by his mother? Would you be offended if you were him?
Why did the Bunny return to his mother?
What did the Bunny understand from this story?
In an ordinary city, on an ordinary street, in an ordinary house, there lived a little boy and his name was Petya. Petya was a kind and cultured boy, but Petya had one peculiarity - he did not like and never wanted to tidy up his toys. No matter how his mother asked him, no matter how his dad scolded him, no matter how his grandmother forced him, nothing helped - Petya would play and throw away his toys. I never looked after them, because they broke because someone was constantly stepping on them.
And then one sunny summer morning Petya woke up, jumped out of his crib and ran to his shelves, where his mother laid out Petya’s toys every evening. And he sees that every single shelf is empty. There's nothing on the shelves. There are no soldiers, no favorite bear, no bunny. There aren't even any cubes. He looked into the large box where his cars and a large construction set were stored, they were also not there, the box was empty. Petya began looking for toys in the chest of drawers and in the closet. Maybe mom put them there? - thought the boy. Or maybe they are under the bed? But they weren’t there either.
And then Petya decided to ask his mother where they could have gone. The worried boy ran to the kitchen and found his mother there preparing breakfast.
“Good morning, Petenka,” said mom.
Petya washed his hands and, sitting down at the table, answered:
- Good morning, Mom. Have you seen my toys, I can’t find them anywhere?
Mom smiled in surprise and said:
- No, dear, I haven’t seen your toys. But last night, when you had already gone to bed and all your toys, as always, were lying all over the nursery, it seemed to me that they were offended by you and could have left such a sloppy boy for another child who loves and respects his toys every day puts them in their places.
Petya had breakfast and decided to go in search of his toys. After all, he couldn't be alone.
He ran out into the street and didn’t know which way to go. And then he sees the neighbor’s cat, Murlykin, walking slowly and importantly down the street. Petya decided to turn to him:
- Hello, Murlykin. Have you by any chance seen my toys, have they left my house?
The cat stopped, stretched and answered:
- Yes, purrr, I saw how they drove in that direction in a big toy car. And he waved his tail towards the backyard.
Petya was delighted and ran there, he ran out into the backyard, ran around it in the hope that he would find his loss there, but the yard was empty.
The boy sat down on the bench in confusion and didn’t know what to do next. He sat and decided to go straight. He walked and walked. He walked for a long time, he passed his own street, passed another, here was some park, here were other people’s houses, but nowhere did he see anything similar to his big toy car.
Confused, Petya no longer knew where to go and where to look for his toys. And he saw an old dog lying on the lawn and basking in the sun.
Then Petya asked him:
- Hello, dear dog, you have probably been lying here for a long time, maybe you accidentally saw a large toy car, there are a lot of toys in it. Didn't she pass by here?
The dog raised his head and answered:
- Rrrrr, hello, boy. Yes, I saw a toy truck here this morning, racing at all speeds. You must have offended these toys very much, since they left you so quickly. And I saw how the hare was missing a paw, the soldiers were all maimed, the car was broken. You probably don't take care of your toys if they're in this condition? If I were them, I would also leave such an owner. The dog turned over on the other side and turned away from Petya.
Petya was very upset, he thought that his mother was right, and his toys were offended by him. He was ready to cry, but even more he wanted his toys back, because he loved them very much.
- Dear dog, excuse me, but tell me, which way did they go?
The dog turned lazily and said:
- And why do you need it? After all, you don’t love them, you don’t need them?
- No, no, they are very necessary, I love them, I can’t live without them.
- So why don’t you clean them up then? after all, the bunny’s leg was torn off because he was lying on the floor and was stepped on, the car was pressed against the door and it broke. All your toys asked not to tell where they went, so that you couldn’t find them.
- I will always put them in their place - always! I promise, tell me where they went. I will fix every single one of them and take good care of them.
The old dog smiled and pointed his shaggy paw towards the forest.
Petya was delighted and ran into the forest, with the hope that there he would finally find his missing toys.
It was starting to get dark and Petya really wanted to eat, he was very tired and completely exhausted. He no longer knew where to find his toys. And then, near an aspen stump, he noticed a gray hare, who was about to run away, but Petya managed to shout to him:
- Wait, dear hare. Have you seen a toy broken down toy truck in this forest?
“I saw it,” the hare quickly answered and hid behind a stump.
- But where exactly?
“I won’t say, they are very upset that they had to leave their owner because he doesn’t take care of them.” They decided that they would live here in the forest. Here no one will throw them around or break them.
- No, I promise that I will never do this to my toys again, I promise to fix them and put them back in their places every day.
Then the hare jumped out from behind a stump and galloped into the bushes. Petya ran after him. He ran out to the edge of the forest and finally saw a familiar large yellow and red truck, and his favorite crippled toys were located next to it. They were very sad that they had such an owner, they really wanted to return home, but they could not, they were damaged and the car was broken.
Petya rushed to them and said:
- Forgive me, my dears, I will never scatter you again, I will always keep order in my room and I promise to fix you all. He carefully placed the toys in the back of the toy truck, tied his string to it and drove home. We had to get home before dark. All dirty, tired and hungry, but very, very happy that he had finally found his friends.
Why does a child hurt animals? Almost all parents and every psychologist asked this question. Often the calmest and most obedient child can treat animals with extreme cruelty. Some parents turn a blind eye to this behavior of their child, saying that he will outgrow and become wiser. But most mothers and fathers are very concerned about the issue of a child’s cruel attitude towards our smaller brothers.
Does your child hurt animals? Causes…
So what are the reasons for this phenomenon? There are several of them, and we will consider each in detail.
1. Physical violence
Perhaps this is the most understandable reason why a child can offend an animal. In families where violence is the norm among adults, children become accustomed to the idea that it is right. Using the example that adults set for him, the child begins to project this behavior onto those who are weaker than him. Seeing how his mother and older brothers and sisters are insulted, filled with love for them, the child knows that he cannot cope with someone who is bigger and stronger than him, and takes revenge in his own way. Tormenting the cat, he believes that by throwing out the accumulated evil on the defenseless animal, he will become stronger and will soon be able to beat the offender himself. If violence is applied directly to him, then he takes out his pain and resentment on the animal.
Advice: Nothing new can be recommended in this case. We live in a civilized society where violence against loved ones or animals is not just bad, in most cases it is a criminal offense. Never use physical force on loved ones, especially with a baby. No matter how much the cat that is spinning under your feet bothers you, do not push the animal away with anger in front of the child. Don't punish older children in front of younger ones. And never spank the youngest member of the family. After all, he already knows that he is the weakest among you all, and if you offend him, then there is simply no one else in the whole world to stand up for him.
2. Negative influence of friends
You hear the roar and cry of an animal and friendly laughter from the street. You look out and see an unpleasant picture - a cat is running across the yard, and cans are tied to its tail. The animal is simply mad with horror, and the gang of children laughs loudly at how it rushes about in search of shelter. In the center of this group of naughty people stands your little one, absolutely proud that he brought so much pleasure to his friends with his action and has now become the center of attention of the older children for a long time. What to do in this case? Scold? It’s no use, you just assure him that he is very cool, since his mother scolds him and the neighbor’s children are happy.
Advice: Find out the reason why he did this. Most likely, the answer will be clear - he was told that he was a coward if he did not tie the cans to the cat's tail, or something like that.
- Explain to your child that this is not only not beautiful, it is very cruel;
- Describe in vivid colors the feelings that the animal experienced when they did this to him;
- In the end, isolate him from communication with those who have a bad influence on your child;
Advice: Of course, help your child catch this cat and free the animal together. Feed and cuddle both of them. How you react and behave in this situation determines whether such cases will continue or next time the baby will understand that being brave does not mean offending the weak.
Advice: Watch the cartoon “Mitten” with him. There, the girl wanted to have a pet dog so much that her mitten turned into a puppy. Explain that the animal is a kind and loyal creature who will never ask to hurt its friends in order to get pleasure.
3. The impact of the environment on the child’s behavior
A small child is unlikely to be able to articulate and talk about being bullied in kindergarten or having a disagreement with friends on the playground. Or rather, he will definitely try to explain this to his mother, but whether she will hear him or not is another question. Parents, busy with work, affairs and everyday life, do not often delve into the babble of their young children. It would be worth listening. Maybe help the child, give him an idea, and understand what exactly the baby is trying to say. Meanwhile, negativity accumulates in the child and as a result, he needs to take out his aggression on someone. And who, if not a weak and defenseless animal that cannot respond, is most suitable for the role of a “punching bag”?
Advice: Don't judge your baby harshly! Much of this is your fault. Try to find the cause of the aggression, find out who is hurting the child and how, and eliminate the cause:
- Reconcile quarreling friends;
- Observe how your child communicates in a group and try to explain to him where he is wrong;
- In the end, isolate him from communication with those who offend him;
- Visit a kindergarten and find out the reasons why your child was punished. It happens that teachers, in order not to bother themselves with unnecessary problems, simply scold and punish children, for example, by putting them in a corner. And this is humiliation.
Advice: Only now can we begin “rehabilitation” measures. First of all, explain to your child that in any case, no matter what happens, he can always count on your support and protection. Tell him that now everything will be fine and Vasya from the next door won’t hurt him anymore (BUT don’t make empty promises). Compare this Vasya’s behavior with the action of a child when he offended a cat. Explain that in relation to him, the strong neighbor boy acted exactly as a child did in relation to the weak cat. Explain to the baby that by doing so he becomes like a bad boy and the animal is just as hurt and offended as he is.
Advice: Read children's books to your child about how the weak need to be protected and not offended. There are many of these, and this theme is especially well developed in Russian folk tales:
- About the fox and the hare. In this fairy tale, an evil fox drove a bunny out of the house, and a brave and courageous cockerel punished the cunning fox;
- Sister Alyonushka and brother Ivanushka. This fairy tale will teach a child to care for those who are younger and smaller than him. He will tell you that it doesn’t matter at all what skin your beloved creature is in.
4. Self-affirmation
Not finding support and recognition of his strengths from his parents and others, the child begins to experiment and assert himself at the expense of those who are weaker than him. Offending an animal that cannot give him a worthy rebuff, he believes that now he has certainly become the strongest and most important.
Advice: Give your child the opportunity to show his strengths in something more suitable. For example, if he loves to run, run races with him. It is clear that you are faster, but still, the baby will be the first in the relay. And then praise him for such results. Or, when clearing the table, ask your child to take his plate to the sink. When this request is systematic, the child himself will get used to the fact that his mother needs help and a reminder will no longer be needed. Praise your child for the smallest kind deed, repeat tirelessly that he is the strongest, bravest and smartest. Develop a sense of primacy in him, constantly supporting him with praise and be sure to explain that bad deeds do not make him stronger and more important.
Advice: Explain to your child that an animal is just a weak creature that needs love and care. And you can use your strength in good deeds. There is an interesting cartoon on this topic, “Dasha the Traveler.” In it, the little girl Dasha makes friends with many animals, with whom they find themselves in various difficult situations and overcome all troubles through joint efforts. This cartoon can be a worthy example of the fact that animals are friends, and there should be no hard feelings between friends.
5. Experimental researcher
When a child is still very small, he does not know the difference between the concepts of “living and not living.” While playing with his toys, the baby unwittingly breaks them. The books and notebooks of an older sister or brother can be torn with an interesting sound, and mugs and plates break with a cheerful clink. And after all, no one is hurt and no one cries because of it! So why not try to tear off the cat's tail or step on the puppy's paw? And he will definitely try it! At least to see the animal’s reaction.
Advice: Channel your little one's exploration skills in the right direction. Buy him a construction set or puzzles. Take his time with something interesting - books, cartoons, walks and just communication. If your child breaks toys or tears up books, explain that things need to be taken care of, if only because tomorrow he will miss his favorite doll or car.
Advice: The wonderful poem “At Grishka Skvortsov’s there lived and had books” will explain to the child in the best possible way that books also hurt. But do not forget to separate the living from the non-living. After all, having realized the difference, the child will understand that it can be very painful for an animal if it is offended and tormented.
Advice: There is an interesting animated series on this topic called “Three Kittens.” There is even a separate series “The Tale of How a Kid Injures an Animal.” The cartoon is very clear and instructive for the youngest viewers. It’s worth watching this fairy tale with your child and explaining to him how the kittens were wrong in relation to their pets, drawing a parallel with the child’s behavior towards the neighbor’s cat, whose tail he pinched in the door today.
6. Sadness and melancholy consume him
Children who do not go to kindergarten, have little contact with their peers or are deprived of the attention of their parents, not knowing what to do with themselves, try to misbehave everywhere and in everything. This is done in order to attract attention and brighten up your aimless pastime. What else can you do to “stir up” indifferent parents or give yourself vivid sensations? Of course, do something out of the ordinary. An animal screaming in pain is just what you need!
Advice: Keep your child busy with something interesting. After all, you are a parent, and you should know better what your baby will like:
- Active games. Play hide and seek with him at home or go to the playground, where he and his friends will have plenty of fun. It is unlikely that he will still have the strength to cause mischief at home, much less offend animals;
- Educational games. There are a lot of these for all ages. Mosaics, puzzles, pyramids, games specially designed for different ages, which can be bought at any children's store;
- Needlework. Drawing, modeling, applique, and much more, it all depends on the age of the child.
In addition, there are many interesting books, cartoons and educational television programs for children. Make sure that your child simply does not have the time and energy to harm or offend pets.
7. I didn’t know, but now I’ll be more careful
This is probably the most common reason why children may offend animals. It most likely relates to the child’s research methods, but it also needs to be discussed separately. The child expresses his feelings very violently. There are no limits to his love or dislike at all. Therefore, if he hugs an animal, he will press it to himself so that its bones crunch. Or, playing with a kitten with a bow on a string, he pulls this toy too hard. The clinging kitten does not have time to pull its paws and simply hangs on the bow. At the same time, it becomes very painful for him and he refuses to run and have fun with the child any longer.
Advice: Explain to your baby as clearly as possible why the animal is “crying.” What he did wrong and what will be right. Show where the cat's claws are, how she clings to the bow with them, and explain that a cat's claws are like human nails. Explain that you can hug mom and dad tightly, because they like it, but the animal is small and it only hurts.
8. Jealousy of the second child
This reason appears in those families where there are two or more children. The second child has his own toys, books and maybe a puppy or kitten. Trying to “pull the blanket” of the parents’ attention, the baby begins to act with the most extreme methods. The favorite toy of the older one (or the youngest one) can be “accidentally” crushed, a new picture book is unexpectedly torn, and the kitten screams heart-rendingly in pain when its tail is pulled.
Advice: When a small child appears, try to make sure that the word “mine” now replaces the word “our” in the house. Children should have common toys, common interests and common pets. Divide equally everything you give or bring into the home for the children. If the eldest was given candy, then the youngest should receive the same. Look for common ground between children’s interests and work with them in the same way. The older one sits down to do his homework, seat the little one at the children's table and draw with him, sculpt from plasticine. Give every possible attention to each child.
The main thing is to help and not offend
From all of the above, only one conclusion can be drawn. In most cases, adults are to blame for children torturing and hurting animals. It all comes down to one conclusion - the child is given too little attention. Busy parents entrust the care of their babies to grandparents, nannies and aunts. Longing for mom and dad, considering himself abandoned and unnecessary, the child begins to do everything out of spite. If mom says that breaking toys is bad, I will break them! Let him be angry, at least to attract attention. I was severely punished or beaten for dragging the puppy by the ears, next time I’ll crush his paw under the door! If you create a feeling of contradiction in a child, it will be very difficult to overcome it. There is only one method here - without raising your voice, communicate eye to eye with the child, exhort and talk. Give arguments, examples, read books and spend a lot of time together.
Inattention to the problems of your own baby can give rise to aggression and negativity on his part and spill out into negative actions. If you don’t see it and take action in time, you can see him hurting his younger sisters and brothers in the future. Let’s not look too far ahead now, but cruelty in people tends to only grow. In childhood, you can still explain to the child and guide him along the path of kindness and understanding. It is no longer possible for an adult who is accustomed to living without paying attention to the insults and pain of others to prove that he is doing wrong.
You can give a lot of examples of books that talk about animals and what is good and what is bad. But cartoons about animals and children are sometimes so exciting that even adults enjoy watching them. One of the recognized masterpieces is “Masha and the Bear”. An amazing multi-part story about how caringly and reverently a big and strong bear treats the mischievous Masha. Watch this cartoon with your child, laugh and be touched, and be sure to explain that any animal can become his most reliable friend if he does not offend him.
Or the second example is the excellent cartoon “Peppa Pig”.
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How to teach a child to love and protect nature from childhood. Parenting. Mom's school
